Denim on denim, and 3 quick ways to find peace in spite of chaos

Hello fashionable humans!

I’m still traveling through England, and I’ve been struggling with my posting schedule because of the unpredictability of my Internet connection. I have not had any reliable WiFi since I left London (my trips are cataloged in my Instagram stories. If you’re interested, my handle is @dafrastar). I am now in Scotland and mercifully have a decent signal; whoop!

Anywho, today’s post is about a denim on denim outfit (clearly), but I also would like to touch on something else. Yesterday, I asked you guys on Instagram how you went about finding an island of calm somewhere in the midst of the hustle and bustle we call life. Indeed, for many of us, daily obligations include getting up at the crack of dawn, getting ourselves (and perhaps the rest of the family) ready for the day, making breakfast/lunch, going to work, having a productive day, and then coming home to unwind- but not before completing dinner, dishes and –insert any other random chore here–. I am out of breath just writing this. More power to the ones who can squeeze gym sessions in, hobbies or time with friends. And just HATS OFF to moms, who do all this- except times 20.

So in all this craziness, how does one regroup when everything gets too much? What happens when social media is just annoying the shit out of you, work sucks, homework just isn’t moving forward and everything is just taking a turn for the worst? Under my Instagram post, you guys had several answers. Retreating to your bedroom was definitely a favorite. Saying a prayer was also mentioned several times. Other options included going on vacation, doing some yoga, drinking a glass of wine or indulging in some 420. Personally, prayer ranks very high for me as well, but I would like to use this post to share more of my personal ways to “get back to neutral”. As always, I would love to hear your thoughts below!

Blogger @Dafrastar rocking denim on denim and sharing her tips on how to find peace in the midst of chaos.

Retreat someplace where I can be quiet for 5 minutes… and that could literally be my head.

It may sound silly to some, but even the appearance of quiet usually helps me get my thoughts in order. I do not require to be actually alone, but closing my eyes, for example, helps me get a handle on what is happening around me. It helps me assess stressors clearly, understand what is causing me to feel frazzled, and therefore act on it. If necessary, this is also a time I use to pray. In the midst of a shitstorm, my prayers usually go like this: “Lord, I hate every second of this shit, but You know why it is happening; so please, in your immense magnanimity, allow me not to care about things that will NOT matter in a few days, and allow me to learn what you wanted me to learn by going through this crap.” I mean, not exactly, but that’s really the gist of it.

Blogger @Dafrastar rocking denim on denim and sharing her tips on how to find peace in the midst of chaos.

Strategize in a way that saves time and makes me feel smart.  (I can’t be the only one who does this.)

Chaos usually means that there is a lot of things to do. Some things need to happen first; sure. Still, there are always 2-3 items that really need to happen at the same time as other things, because they have the potential of being huge bottlenecks later.

A real-life example: on days where I have a mountain of dishes to do + a deck to complete + a blog post to edit + looks to brainstorm, shit can go left quick. After I use step 1 to calm down, I usually start scheduling tasks in my head, and then re-arrange them to optimize my timelines. For example, some tasks should always be done first because, while unimportant, they need be completed fast not to derail my schedule. Dishes and laundry are good examples; starting the dishwasher before doing anything else means that dishes will be clean by the time I am done editing photos, and BAM- 2 things done. This usually makes me feel way smarter than I really am and gives me the courage to charge through everything else.

Blogger @Dafrastar rocking denim on denim and sharing her tips on how to find peace in the midst of chaos.

Drink tea. Gallons of it.

I don’t even mean the kind with caffeine; I mean the silly kind with random herbs and flowers and shit. Here is the thing- I consume little to no caffeine on a daily basis (not even on purpose, kinda just happened.) HOWEVER- God have mercy on anyone who will ever come between me and my caffeine free ginger or peppermint tea. Why, you ask? I DON’T KNOW- STOP ASKING ME QUESTIONS.

Tea is literally my answer to everything in life. Happy? Drink tea. Sad? Drink tea. Angry? Drink tea. Frazzled? Drink tea. Ate too much? Hungry? Tired? DRINK. TEA.

Maybe it’s the process of making it; maybe it helps me feel like at least ONE thing is going right; maybe I just fucking love flowery infused beverages. I have no idea what it is, but tea brings me so much peace… that it is generally what I am doing with my hands as I am going through steps 1 and 2 in my head. And the silly thing is that I will take AGES to drink a cup. So it’s not even that I really need the beverage.

Odds are- you have your tea equivalent. Find it, and use it as a mindless occupation while you strategize and determine how to emerge from chaos. It works, and helps- at least for me- to reset my mind and get back on track (that said, please, for the love little green dragons, don’t pick something harmful like– idk– cocaine).

Blogger @Dafrastar rocking denim on denim and sharing her tips on how to find peace in the midst of chaos.

Time to chat about Denim on Denim Styling!

Now let’s talk about my clothes- all that yapping made me forget I had not touched on those. BTW- this look was put together with items I already had lying around in my closet. Therefore, half of them are sold out and I have no idea where I bought the other half from. Sowee!

Blogger @Dafrastar rocking denim on denim and sharing her tips on how to find peace in the midst of chaos.

I am wearing my best interpretation of denim on denim. In my humble opinion, it is one of the simplest ways to look fashionable yet low key. I personally love pairing darker pants with a lighter denim or chambray shirt, for a good amount of color contrast.  I dislike acid wash, so said top still needs to be some kind of blueish hue to be attractive to me.

The pants: I have owned them for a while (I buy jeans from Lucky Brand every Black Friday, so they are at least 1 year old, possibly older.) These are the Sasha Super Skinnies I believe, which I also featured in this post. I HATE the fact that Lucky Brand does NOT celebrate diversity at all in their ads; they are so non-inclusive, it is almost comical. Sooooo, if you know of another brand that sells jeans up to a 36″ inseam (at prices that would hopefully not bankrupt me), please point me their way.

The top: It is a chambray top I bought from… somewhere. Maybe Marshalls? I remember physically buying it, so it was not Amazon… I will update with details if I can find them, but you can honestly find dozens like it anywhere online. Mine’s only particularity is that it has push buttons instead of regular ones– useful for people with claws like myself.

The scarf: Bought in a boutique in NYC, on a particularly freezing day 6 years ago.

The belt: Thrifted years ago.

The shoes: Stuart Weitzman LeggyLady, featured in this post as well. Kind of sold out everywhere online, but similar (and much cheaper) ones here.

The sunglasses: Bought on the side of the road somewhere in Brazil for like 3 bucks.

DASSIT- If you made it this far, thanks a whole bunch, and see you next time! (likely next week, because this lack of network is no bueno.) Catch my stories on Instagram- I am sharing quite a bit of my daily activities! (Did London, Oxford, Liverpool, Edinburgh, Inverness and headed back to London tomorrow!)

As always- thanks for stopping by.

Blogger @Dafrastar rocking denim on denim and sharing her tips on how to find peace in the midst of chaos.

This look was photographed by Rachel Radcliffe in Piedmont, California.

With Love,

D

Pajamas or day clothes? Skinny jeans and white silk kimono duster

So what happens when you wear a robe outside of your room? Not a damn thing. You just look really cool.

Hello beautiful people;  I hope you are having a stellar day. I am wedging in a little mid-week post on this fine Wednesday. Let’s see how that goes! 🙂

So did I mention I am married? (My husband has absolutely nothing to do with this post, but it is worth mentioning that he is a kind soul who feeds me burgers in spite of being vegetarian and buys me a lot of bubble tea.) My wedding was 2 years ago and it was an epic party, with a lot of outfit changes (we shall re-visit that topic one day). However- the first outfit I donned for my nuptials was actually a silk robe/ kimono I was meant to take pictures in with my bridesmaids (that never happened, because hair and makeup ran epically late.)

Wearing a fun silk duster is a simple way to bring a look from good to fierce! And guess what- some robes can double as dusters! #duster #skinnyjeans #darkjeans #denim #silkduster #silkrobe #kimono

After getting married, I hung the robe in my closet and fondly looked at it sometimes. At some point last year, I saw all Instagram baddies rocking peach/pale pink/light gold and other similarly pastel colored silk  kimono dusters on my timeline. I remember wanting to jump on that bandwagon ASAP, but somehow getting distracted.

Wearing a fun silk duster is a simple way to bring a look from good to fierce! And guess what- some robes can double as dusters! #duster #skinnyjeans #darkjeans #denim #silkduster #silkrobe #kimono

Fast forward a few months- one day some weeks ago, I was feeling dejected by my jeans+tee work uniform and decided to be wild and add something crazy to it. I laid my eyes on the robe, recalled the gorgeous ladies from my timeline, thought I could totally do it too, prayed for nobody to call me out on my bullshit and just went for it. I only forgot one thing- that day, I was at a meeting that was being broadcasted to my whole company, and I had the nerve to get up and ask a question wearing a robe in public (sometimes I amaze myself.) Guess what- people actually told me they liked the look- it totally passed for a kimono/caftan. BOOM- that’s what you call a WIN, people, accidental or not!

Wearing a fun silk duster is a simple way to bring a look from good to fierce! And guess what- some robes can double as dusters! #duster #skinnyjeans #darkjeans #denim #silkduster #silkrobe #kimono

So yeah- I wore it 2-3 more times since then, and I have been loving it. It is such a simple thing to throw on top of jeans, dresses (wore it with a racerback tank dress on Sunday)  and even mini skirts! I feel like the rewards outweigh the efforts by far, because it elevates looks from “meh” to a “cool as shit”. It makes me feel boudoir chic, like I am some contessa gracing mere mortals with her presence (… if contessas had to take the train to work every day, that is.) It is clearly a robe, but I honestly feel like it can absolutely pass as a printed duster, like this one, this one or even this one. And have you seen the ZARA pajama set that drove everyone nuts this season?? I was too late to get my hands on it, or you better believe I would have worn that as regular clothing too.

Wearing a fun silk duster is a simple way to bring a look from good to fierce! And guess what- some robes can double as dusters! #duster #skinnyjeans #darkjeans #denim #silkduster #silkrobe #kimonoWhat I am wearing: Top: Aliexpress, here | Jeans: Lucky Sasha Super Skinny, here | Shoes: Steve Madden Daisie, here | Silk robe: Aliexpress ( could not find the exact one I bought, but there’s tons of them): Similar here| Choker: Zara, sold out but available here| rings: Amazon, here

Quick thoughts on the ‘fit:

  • Top: Not the worst top in the world. Already worn 3x, still holding up. Not bad for $10, but quality is obviously very average.
  • Jeans: Always loved Lucky Jeans; I buy them in bulk (read trough the hyperbole: I buy three) every Black Friday.The Sasha fit is nice, but I feel somewhat constricted in it sometimes, especially when the stretch is low (I am a bit hippy). I like the Lolita fit better. Too bad Lucky Brand does not believe in diversity in their ads- I get very annoyed at the booklets they send me in the mail; at least try a little, people!
  • Shoes: we’ve been over them in previous posts. They are uncomfortable and I hate them, but they do make my legs look longer, so I keep smiling through the pain.
  • Robe: Love it! I mean- for the cost, you can’t really do better.

Wearing a fun silk duster is a simple way to bring a look from good to fierce! And guess what- some robes can double as dusters! #duster #skinnyjeans #darkjeans #denim #silkduster #silkrobe #kimono

So that’s it for a quick Wednesday post! I have half a mind to purchase more silk dusters, because I feel like they are the lazy girl’s way of looking somewhat put together. I would like to get one in caramel/gold or blush pink because I feel like these shades would compliment my skin tone.

Wearing a fun silk duster is a simple way to bring a look from good to fierce! And guess what- some robes can double as dusters! #duster #skinnyjeans #darkjeans #denim #silkduster #silkrobe #kimono

And to finish off this post- here is a quick shot of me actually wearing this robe on my wedding day.

Wearing a fun silk duster is a simple way to bring a look from good to fierce! And guess what- some robes can double as dusters! #duster #skinnyjeans #darkjeans #denim #silkduster #silkrobe #kimono

Thanks for stopping by today- see you soon!

Drop me a note below with any thoughts!

 

D