Fashion Friday: 5 ways to rock a Mini Skirt

Hello #fashionablehumans, wassup wassup!

It’s Friday, it’s the weekend, it’s gonna be LIT (more like we’re gonna take naps but that’s cool too).

Today, we’re gonna keep it simple and just dissect a quintessential piece of clothing: the mini skirt.

I am not about to launch into a history of the mini, but all I can say is that my mom used to wear A LOT of them in her time. I came across her teenage and high school photos and I was like “Dayuumm, OK mom!” (She might actually kill me if she sees this.)

Anywho, I like minis a lot and wear them on all occasions, even in winter (with very very thick tights obvs). I am also a little picky with my mini skirts: they have to be the right length (I am 5″11 an ALL legs so it’s harder than you would think), and I can only do A-line or bodycon minis (skater skirts give me anxiety because I am clumsy and will expose myself in a second.)

I therefore have to make the few good minis I have work super hard for me. I creatively style them for the club, the beach, running errands, brunch, all kinds of shit. Mini skirts are some of my favorite items to pack for vacations, because they can work for museums, drinks, dinners, dancing, and (apparently) hikes. (I know, I have problems.) BUT- y’all know I am for real, because the mini in that photo is the same one I am styling in this post!!! Authenticity!!!

Also, the fact that the looks below are almost all monochromatic black was NOT planned, I swear.

Let’s jump into “5 ways to style a mini skirt”, shall we? I will be rocking this skirt from Zara for all the looks below. I have had it for maybe 5 months, and I have honestly worn it at least 10 times. More options here, here ($16), here and here.

Casual Mini Skirt— On the go City Girl

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I actually wore this exact look the Saturday after Black Friday to go shopping in San Francisco. I mean- you can’t go wrong with a mini skirt + sweater + OTK combo. You can make the sweater baggy, fitted like here, chunky, whatever- it still works. This is a simple look to go catch brunch with buddies, go from 9-5 (with tights) and then 5-8 (…or 11, I am not judging). I love how effortless it is, and with the astute use of a pair of tights, I could honestly wear this look anywhere. I am also in love with the sweater (another well-used item in my wardrobe, and peep the pearl details); I have the black and charcoal versions, and I am debating on whether I need to get the navy one.

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Sexy Mini Skirt— Girl on a Date

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I mean this is cliché as heck, but yeah- minis work on dates too, surprise! Whether it is with a new Tinder dude, or with a trusty boyfriend or husband (hey bae), it always feels great to dress up to go meet someone special. I mean yeah, we know we don’t dress for boys, but still — who does not feel good after putting in some effort in their appearance? I know I do.

This look is comprised of pieces I have worn to death on this blog (I mean whatever, they work). My trusty cheapie bodysuit, sold here and here, and featured here and here; I wear this top with a pretty full coverage bra because it is totally sheer, but you could make it even more modest with a black tank top. Still fab! My Steve Madden pumps are sold here, and worn here and here. The bag I am rocking is EONS old, and it is just a little black leather pouch with a sequin bow.

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Classy Mini Skirt— Boss Babe Girl

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Okay- this look is more like businesswoman cosplay, but hear me out. While you would likely not wear it in a boardroom, you can totally rock this to friendly meetups, or even to the office with nice tights (…and a calmer jacket, if the culture is not fond of pearl adorned ones. I debated using a simpler blazer for this look, but I opted to go all out.)

This look made me feel super powerful. I have also always been a fan of looks where the jacket is longer than the skirt, and I feel like I almost achieved that here :). I paired my mini with a basic white shirt (similar here ) and a funky blazer (similar options here or here — this blazer is all the rage).

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Baddie Mini Skirt— Girls Night Out

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I dunno about y’all, but I usually put a lot more work into getting dressed for a girls’ night than I do for a date. My girls appreciate the amount of effort that goes into a look and their compliments just go straight to my heart, because they say things like “OMG you paired these two items perfectly, and your earrings complement your makeup!” Like, yessss.

For this look, I wanted something that definitely showed that I tried, but would also be comfortable, because a good GNO involves lots of laughter and hopefully some dancing. This top is a random lacy number that ended up working quite well with my mini here (actually bought it with another look in mind, which is coming up in a few weeks). It is sheer, but has a bit more texture than the bodysuit above. I cannot wait to try it with high waisted jeans.

The jacket is just so soft and luxurious, I love it! This is the one I originally wanted, but I ended up not getting it because the price made my wallet cry. The one I am wearing is from Mango, but looks discontinued. This is the closest one, and here is a cheaper alternative. Fur jackets just make me feel like I have a lot of money, and my extra-ness automatically goes up a few notches when I have one on. I mean, look at my face.

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Sporty Mini Skirt— Laid Back Girl

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I mean this look speaks for itself. Super casual, quickly thrown together to go grab a beer, go to the grocery store, head to grandma’s house, stop by a friend’s house, Netflix and Chill… anything, really. This look is just cool AF.

I loved mixing denim and leather here, and I loved rocking my Mess in a Bottle tee! I bought this tee in December (along with the grey version), and I was hoping to get to wear it for a shoot. I was initially planning on using it with this skirt. If you are in the mood to support a small, minority-owned AND woman-owned business (hint: you should be), shop Kalilah’s merch! My next purchases will be this (I mean… of course), this, this and maaaaybe this, as I just bought a similar dress already. The denim jacket is the Levi’s Classic Trucker Jacket in Belle Blue, and the sneakers are sparkly grey Sperrys.

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Blogger @Dafrastar shows how to style a mini skirt 5 ways, from Boss Babe to Girls Night out. More on www.dafrastar.com! mini skirt, leather skirt, style a mini skirt, style a mini, mini skirt inspiration, leather skirt inspiration, short skirt inspiration, mini, leather mini, leather mini looks, mini skirt looksBlogger @Dafrastar shows how to style a mini skirt 5 ways, from Boss Babe to Girls Night out. More on www.dafrastar.com! mini skirt, leather skirt, style a mini skirt, style a mini, mini skirt inspiration, leather skirt inspiration, short skirt inspiration, mini, leather mini, leather mini looks, mini skirt looksThat’s it! Which one of the looks above is your fave? Which one would you wear? Be honest!

Thanks so much for stopping by today, and I wish you a fun and relaxing weekend!

Until next time,

With Love,

D

 

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5 things I wish I knew about growing up

Hello #fashionablehumans!!!

It is bright and early on Tuesday (well, on the West Coast) and I hope your Monday was stellar and shit.

Today, I wanted to do a tiny bit of reflection on growing up and fully becoming oneself. This post may get cheesy real quick— you’ve been warned. However, I would like to believe that I will touch on things that may make sense for some of you. Deal? Deal. Leggo.

Blogger Dafrastar chats about self- introspection and growing up as a person on www.dafrastar.com. Photography by Ringo Cheung from @apertureproduction in Central, Hong Kong.

Ten years ago, I was a completely different person (aren’t we all, though?). I mean- COMPLETELY different. My value system was not the same, I was a little stuck up, and —the biggest thing — I thought I had my whole life figured out. I was gonna graduate with a degree in finance, get married at 27 ish, move into a house with a white picket fence, adopt a puppy, get a job in my field of study and pop out 2 babies. Dunzo.

The thing is,  I now realize that I never took the time to wonder whether I gave 2 shits about any of the things above. I mean— yeah, some of those are milestones that many of us seek in life, myself included. Still, looking back, I am a little shocked at the fact that NEVER even questioned whether this very path was MY path. I just accepted it as being so and charged ahead.

Blogger Dafrastar chats about self- introspection and growing up as a person on www.dafrastar.com. Photography by Ringo Cheung from @apertureproduction in Central, Hong Kong.What I am wearing: Skirt: here, Top: here, similar here and here, shoes: here. Photo by Ringo Cheung in Hong Kong.

Fast forward a few years, life took some strange turns. I ended up in California, did not get married until 30, realized I hated finance, built a career in marketing and am in no rush to get babies ( I did get the puppy 🐶) . Here is the thing— I could not be happier with my current outcome. I am SO glad none of the things I wanted in my early twenties panned out; I realize today that I would have been miserable.

Blogger Dafrastar chats about self- introspection and growing up as a person on www.dafrastar.com. Photography by Ringo Cheung from @apertureproduction in Central, Hong Kong.I do believe that the complete 180 described above happened as a result of me being forced into new beginnings (broke up with my longtime boyfriend, graduated from college, grew apart from my best friend at the time, moved across the country to grad school). Those events set me free and allowed me to actually pursue what I wanted, and not what was expected of me, because I had nothing left to lose. I learned a lot about myself in those few years and grew leaps and bounds.

Today, I would like to chat about what I learned through those defining moments. Please share some of your defining life moments in the comments as well, and let’s all grow together!

Blogger Dafrastar chats about self- introspection and growing up as a person on www.dafrastar.com. Photography by Ringo Cheung from @apertureproduction in Central, Hong Kong.

Growth Lesson 1: The people around you may love you, but they can’t see the world through your eyes.

 

This is literally the most important thing I have ever learned: just because people are nice does NOT mean you should listen to their advice. The fact that they love you and wish you to succeed does NOT imply they know what is best for you. And yes, that includes your closest friends and parents.

In grad school, I did exactly the opposite of what I had done my whole life (aka been prescribed by my parents). I went for a (more) creative degree,  started a fashion blog (it was named Dafrastar too), and finally indulged into my love for fashion and beauty (that I had refused to nurture before because it felt vapid). I got to do what made me happy and still got a job after school, so win-win.

Blogger Dafrastar chats about self- introspection and growing up as a person on www.dafrastar.com. Photography by Ringo Cheung from @apertureproduction in Central, Hong Kong.Growth Lesson 2: You can’t prevent mistakes, but you can learn from them.

Literally no one has ever learned anything without making mistakes. Not one single human.

Therefore, be sure that you will make a lot of them, and some very dumb ones at that. You will look back and wonder what you were smoking.😄

Still, the most important part of a mistake is not the deed itself, but what you learn about yourself and the changes you subsequently make. Growing up is realizing that you do not know everything, and that you always have an opportunity to make better choices for yourself and the people around you. Doing the same thing over and over is the definition of insanity. Don’t be insane, especially when you fall flat on your face a couple of times.

Blogger Dafrastar chats about self- introspection and growing up as a person on www.dafrastar.com. Photography by Ringo Cheung from @apertureproduction in Central, Hong Kong.Growth Lesson 3: Listen to yourself, and have the courage to act upon what you hear.

To grow up —truly grow up— one has to be very, very honest with themselves.

Work on listening to yourself, understand your own wants and desires, but also make a solid inventory of your strengths and weaknesses. Then, with courage, work on forging your own unique path, based on who you are and what you know you can achieve. Don’t be delusional, but give yourself some credit.

My personal example: I always knew I was good at languages, but I went to a high school focused on math and physics because it was the prestigious thing to do. It was a horrible 4 years, where I saw my grades dwindle and my insecurities soar. On the surface, I was cool as a cucumber; deep down, I was battling with the truth, which was that I was not cut from the same cloth as my classmates. I painfully made my way through graduation, but guess what: a few months ago, I met 2 of my previous classmates a few days apart. Without talking to each other, they both wholeheartedly agreed that I should have never gone that path. See??? I was fooling no one!

Blogger Dafrastar chats about self- introspection and growing up as a person on www.dafrastar.com. Photography by Ringo Cheung from @apertureproduction in Central, Hong Kong.Growth Lesson 4: People don’t care, so you might as well do you, boo.

This one stings a little, but is still very true. People are all looking for their own happiness, and spend exactly 0.01 seconds a day thinking about you and what you do. Shying away from taking on new challenges or trying new and better things because of “what people will say” is literally the dumbest thing you can do. Period.

Growing up means realizing that what people think about you is absolutely none of your business. Not always easy to remember, but true. Live for you!

Blogger Dafrastar chats about self- introspection and growing up as a person on www.dafrastar.com. Photography by Ringo Cheung from @apertureproduction in Central, Hong Kong.

Growth Lesson #5: Be open and be kind.

A common thread with all the lessons above is acting on new things; this one is more about attitude. A major part of growth is being open to new people, cultures, experiences, ways of life— overall, things that are deeply different from the usual. I truly do believe that no growth happens in a silo. Living a sheltered life surrounded by similar people can lead to intolerance and overall ignorance about the world.

My biggest learning experience was moving to the US. My 2nd biggest learning experience was actually opening myself up to the American way of life, which did not happen until a few years in, when I stepped out of the protective “International Student Posse” bubble. Interacting with people who were very different from me was scary, but oh so useful. In most cases, curiosity turned into tolerance which then morphed into acceptance. I learned a lot more about myself than I learned about others in this discovery process, and the exchanges created by my new openness broke a lot of stereotypes and preconceived notions I did not even know  I had. I do believe that I am a more mature and better-rounded person as a result.

As a conclusion, guys, growing up has nothing to do with age. It has everything to do with discovering oneself, making peace with it and using this newfound identity to reach for others and for the stars. I personally strive to keep seeking growth every day, and I hope you do too.

Blogger Dafrastar chats about self- introspection and growing up as a person on www.dafrastar.com. Photography by Ringo Cheung from @apertureproduction in Central, Hong Kong.

On to the outfit!

So, I went to Hong Kong over Christmas. It was an amazing experience in and of itself, but I took advantage of my time there to do a photo shoot. When I tell you it was one of the most incredible experiences of my life, I am NOT exaggerating. I will eventually dedicate a whole post to that whirlwind of a day, but man— was it intense, and incredibly fun!

The look:

The bustier: This is a random studded leather bustierI got from Forever 21 EONS ago. It made my “Donate” pile more than once, but somehow always made its way back to my closet. It is not super supportive, the cups have the depth of the teaspoon and it digs into my armpit fat, but I still love this cheap little number. Not meant for busty ladies AT ALL, and mostly sold out (except here). Similar here and here.

The skirt: I fell in love with this skirt several moons ago on Etsy, and I finally got to wear it! It is exactly what it looks like: a huge, voluminous tulle skirt that serves you drama by the fistful. It needs no petticoat to poof up, which I love; however, it wrinkles VERY easily; I ironed it for 1 hour before it could be photoshoot ready. It just makes everything look grand; I am not giving up on finding a way to dress it down though. Watch me.

The shoes (not that you can see my feet): Wearing my trusty Steve Madden Stecy sandals, featured here, here and in so many other posts on this blog I lost count.

OK – Dassit!!!!

Thank you guys so much for rocking with me; share some thoughts below! What did you learn when you grew up?

Until next time,

With Love,

D

Fashion: Mixing Textures for Fun Outfits

Hello #fashionablehumans! Happy Tuesdayyyyy!

This post is the first one in a new series I am trying out for my editorial calendar. It is much lighter than my usual soul-searching monologues and simply focuses on fashions trend I feel like examining a bit closer.

I hope for these posts to be as fun for you guys as the other posts on my blog, if not more! Without further ado, let’s jump in!

Blogger @Dafrastar discusses mixing textures to achieve polished looks.
Fringe, Cotton and Leather

Outfit featured here

Mixing Textures: Why?

Today, the topic I feel like yapping about is texture in an outfit; more specifically, how mixing different textures in a single look can lead to something dope.

Putting together an outfit can be as simple or as complicated as you make it, really. While I personally tend to err on the simpler side for everyday wear, I do enjoy the occasional sass of a well-crafted look with interesting elements. A shortcut to that sartorial promised land is juxtaposing interesting and unexpected textures to create something visually appealing.

There are tons of reasons why mixing things up is clever, but I will zero in on a few below.

Blogger @Dafrastar discusses mixing textures to achieve polished looks.
Eyelet, Spandex, Pleather and Lace

Outfit featured here

Texture Mixing automatically upgrades outfits.

Anything becomes more interesting with a cool texture, and clothes are no exception.  Mixing things up makes looks more eye-catching and richer; it immediately looks like the wearer put lots of work into it (which is usually the goal, for me at least). As an example, pairing leather pants with a fur coat makes a statement. It departs from boring hum-drum fashion and immediately becomes noteworthy, fun, appealing and “haute”. The all-black look above is much cooler because of the neighboring strips of leather and lace.

 

Blogger @Dafrastar discusses mixing textures to achieve polished looks.
Net, Lace and Bodycon

Outfit featured here

 There is more opportunity to use transitional pieces. 

Spring is upon us, and brighter colors are about to make their 2018 debut after hibernating for a few months. That said, the (chilly AF) temperatures still call for warmer pieces, even though we are all ready to be rocking lilac and shit. This is a great time to pair heavier winter fabrics (like suede or wool) with lighter and brighter summery fabrics like light cotton or silk. A fun printed dress can be paired with a great jacket and warm boots to create the perfect mixture of stylish and sensible (cause frostbite ain’t your friend). I paired a fun coat with a mini above, but honestly—that coat was protecting no one from the cold, let’s be real.

 

Ankara fabric, Cotton and Lace

Outfit featured here

Mixing textures allows one’s style to shine through an otherwise standard look

Do you have a signature style? (if not, these steps can help you find yours btw.) Do you have items that just scream “you”, like layered scarves or fun colored tights? If so, adding something unexpected but still YOU to an outfit will add a fun new texture while putting your stamp on an outfit (in my case, I added a lace bralet to the look above to make it sassier and truer to my sophisti-ratchet style😁).

Dafrastar wearing a red monochromatic look from Zara (top and skirt) with Steve Madden shoes and a pear encrusted clutch. |red outfit| red outfit inspiration| monochromatic look| summer fashion inspiration|
Satin, Knit and Leather

Look featured here

Mixing Textures is key for a killer for a monochromatic look

I am not saying that monochromatic looks have to be mixed in texture, but I am definitely saying that it makes them more interesting. Ashleigh from The Daileigh wrote a book on monochromatic dressing, and texture plays a big role in nailing a good monochromatic look! See, I know what I am talking about! The red look above is one of my favorite of all time, and the mix of knit and satin make it so fun! See one of her monochromatic looks below:

More cool examples of fun texture mixing:

 

Cool tights+ denim mix via xoxox_natalie

@Oliviaculpo rocking a poplin blouse, organza skirt and sheer tights

Marci Mason aka @greychampagne looking glorious in various textures and colors

Aileen aka @balleronabudget rocking transitional pieces with a light dress:

@theyusufs: these sisters are Ph.D. level dressers, so I will let the photos speak for themselves.

 

@torontoshay rocking sequins and fringe. Great minds 😋

@shantelrousseau rocking a fun mix of texture and patterns

Last but not least, my girl Rita aka @styled_into_fashion. Her whole feed is a succession of carefully put together outfits with the richest textures. Check her out!

 

That’s it for today’s fashion post! I hope you guys liked it, and…

Until next time,

With love,

Dafra

3 Tips to Get Back on Track after Failure

Wassup wassup #fashionablehumans !

Just came home from sunny Ouagadougou, where I was to celebrate my cousin’s wedding!!!! I was super excited to be back home, see my parents, family and friends, and also EAT EVERYTHING! Real talk, by the week before I left, I had already sent my mom a list of allllll the things I needed to eat during my stay. I came correct!

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While I am super fortunate to travel often (this trip brought my count to 4 countries and 4 continents in the past 6 months), being on the go all the time takes its toll, and unfortunately— Dafrastar often gets the short end of the stick (I have not posted in a fucking month). I often find myself falling asleep at my computer (like right now 😂) while blogging. I also mostly work at night, so sometimes I don’t even make it to my computer AT ALL. While I believe that resolutions are obsolete (you may read more on that here), I do have serious goals for the blog in 2018. For example, I aim to post quality content twice a week (as well as stick to a Tuesday & Friday uploading schedule). I believe and trust I will eventually succeed at this, but MAN has it been challenging. I can confidently say I have failed at it so far.

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Needless to say, some days I just feel an overwhelming annoyance with myself. How dare I need more than 4 hours of sleep a day? How come I do not have a perfectly organized editorial calendar, with content planned for the next zillion weeks? How come I can’t churn out twelve viral posts per minute, while also slaying my career, keeping full edges and rocking clear skin? WHY? Ugh.

The summary of this tirade is: sometimes I get fucking tired and discouraged of failing at my goals. Life is pretty much the art of juggling shit,  and one invariably has to fall behind somewhere. For me, not hitting my posting schedule for the blog makes me anxious. Anxiety, in turn, makes me catatonic and prone to avoidance; I just want to give everything up and run away. I guess that’s why the expression “falling off the wagon” exists… We all have lives, and side hustles/hobbies don’t always get much love. They eventually end up choo-chooing their way away from our overwhelmed asses.

(…) side hustles/hobbies don’t always get much love. They eventually end up choo-chooing away from our overwhelmed asses.

Therefore, some days I do have to dig deeeep to remain motivated/ get back on track after failing. The tips below help me do it and remain somewhat sane; they are how this blog post is live today, and how many more will see the light of day. These tips apply to everything in life, as far as I am concerned: exercise routines, nutrition, dance classes, skin care… pretty much anything in your life requiring continuous commitment and effort. Let’s jump into it!

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1- The path to success is not straight. The ones who make it are the ones who understand that failure is part of the game.

 

This is something we should all remember more often.

 

You likely saw this picture around the internet somewhere. Success and failure go hand in hand; that’s just the truth. Even the greatest athletes have off days, weeks or even years. Does that mean they should stop? Nope, and neither should you. Consistency is hard and we are all bound to fall short sometimes. That said, it is also our duty to refuse to get used to failure. We have to accept it and learn from it, but more than everything, we have to let it fuel our comeback. I will be the first one to admit that failure sucks. Up until this day, not succeeding at something leaves a horrible taste in my mouth. That said, in 2017, I learned to hold myself to high standards and not let failure define me. It was such a liberating moment! I pretty much gave myself the permission to fail as long as I kept getting up and trying harder. Guess what: the areas of my life I applied this rule to saw more success in 2017 than any other year before.

LESSON: Do not focus that much on the “Falling” part of the story; it is the “Getting Up” part that matters.

Consistency is hard and we are all bound to fall short sometimes. That said, it is also our duty to refuse to get used to failure. (…) Do not focus that much on the “Falling” part of the story; it is the “Getting Up” part that matters.

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2- Remember: Progress is much better than perfection

This is squarely targeted to people who also suffer from my ailment, the accursed disease of perfection. In our heads, we are failing everyone including the Queen of England if we do not execute things exactly at the time we planned them, with grace, poise and excellence. However, life (and especially work) taught me that the sentence above is the devil, and the devil is a lie. Think about it: visualize yourself making a quilt, or a sweater, or some other shit that requires a large time investment. Making a quilty-square (you know exactly what I’m trying to say) per day may be your initial goal, but you may end up making 4 squares a week (because life), or a couple of your squares could be kind of crooked. Do you stop quilting because your output isn’t perfect? NO, THAT WOULD BE SILLY. You would keep sewing that shit until it was done and chilling on your guest room bed. That analogy applies to life: a crooked quilty square does not mean you stop; it means you learn where to put your needle to make better squares and keep it moving.

LESSON: Slower than planned does not mean stagnant. Hang in there and try to speed up; if you can’t,  still hang in there. Think of any hard project as a master quilting project.

Slower than planned does not mean stagnant. Hang in there and try to speed up; if you can’t, still hang in there. Think of any hard project as a master quilting project. Do you stop quilting because your output isn’t perfect? NO, THAT WOULD BE SILLY.

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3- You likely learned a thing or two on your break.

Let’s assume you took an unplanned break from working towards your dream, or maybe stayed on the ground a little longer than usual (due to a particularly vicious setback). Guess what? Chances are, you will get back on the horse with a refreshed mind, renewed purpose, or even better ideas/more drive than before. Anyone who ever had to work on a creative project can attest to the fact that walking away for a while does wonders for the brain. It helps you reset, think about things differently, and maybe even finally grasp something that kept eluding you before. While this is not reason enough to take a hiatus, it is definitely a non-negligible benefit.

LESSON: If you fall hard, realize that the unplanned break will still bring you benefits. Use them to the max; make that setback count!

Anyone who ever had to work on a creative project can attest to the fact that walking away for a while does wonders for the brain. If you fall hard, realize that the unplanned break will still bring you benefits. Use them to the max; make that setback count!

Hang in there, peeps. Just hang in there, and never think that falling off the wagon does not mean you can catch the next train. Bonus: you may even ride in the first class coach.

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On to the outfit we are rocking today! This look was initially shot as a part of my Fall 2017 Trends series, to represent for the fringe and fishnets trends. Never got around to posting it. Welp.

The top: I LOVE it (featured in my sequin skirt lookbook as well). It has the right balance of sass and comfort, and I love that the drama is limited to the sleeves (dunno why, but I dig that shit.) I will likely wear it until it falls apart. That said, I still can’t find a link to it for the life of me, so here are 2 similar options here and here. Sowee!

The skirt: I am also in love with this puppy. It is a simple faux leather A-line mini skirt from Zara, and it can be worn so many ways. Maybe I should feature it in a post?…🤔 I rocked it with a turtleneck, an oversized shirt, a tee, a sheer bodysuit… it can do it all. I even wore it with thick tights and a sweater to work, and upped the casual vibe with some sneakers. I’m telling you, it is a jack of all trades.

The boots: they are the Steve Madden Gorgeous, and they are bae; I spoke about them here, and somehow never got a chance to feature them on the blog until now. They are a size 10 (I wear 10.5) so they are a smidgen tight but manageable. I love them with jeans, they make my legs look a mile long.

The fishnets: pretty ordinary ones, get the job done. I would have bought cuter ones if I had given it more thought.

That’s it for this post folks! Please tell me below; how do you manage to get shit done, or how do you motivate yourself to keep going after you fall? Let’s share tips so we can all crush goals this year!

Until next time,

With Love,

D

What is your personal style? Find out in 6 steps

Hello hello #fashionablehumans!

Happy Tuesday, and I hope you enjoyed the weekend and are already killing this week! Are you doing anything fun or major? Let me know in the comments!

I was on Pinterest the other day, and I saw a few pins about unlocking one’s personal style. I already had “Personal Style” inked on my list of things to write about, because it is such an organic and ever-evolving thing. It took me a long time to feel like I nailed mine; shit, I still have doubts sometimes! As far as I am concerned, “Style” really does not have much to do with fashion. I define it as:

  1. Externally: one’s signature look, aka the kind of attire they are known to wear or the clothes they are often associated with (for example: Kate Winslet = bodycon mermaid gowns, Laverne Cox= dramatic dresses often featuring cutouts, the Olsen twins = oversize, boho, frilly, lacy and/or furry things.)
  2. Internally: one’s personal philosophy about how they want to look.

Blogger @Dafrastar shares 6 fun steps to determine your look

To be honest, #2 has to come first, but it takes a while to achieve. It is challenging for anyone to figure out how they want to appear to the world… Moreover,  IF they ever achieve that, nailing a consistent aesthetic as a result of it is a tall ask. We were not all blessed with Janelle Monáe’s incredible consistency (the girl has been slaying in her black and white “uniform” for YEARS, veering very rarely away from it).  For the bulk of us mere mortals, shopping is really just reduced to looking for items to wrap our bodies in, while optimizing for comfort and cuteness.

Personal style is a very… well, personal journey, but I feel like some overarching rules hold true; let’s explore them below!

Blogger @Dafrastar shares 6 fun steps to determine your look, in 6 simple steps
1. Forget what you are “supposed” to be wearing. This is about you.

Finding your style means really focusing on what feels right to YOU. That means letting go of other people’s opinions, of what your friends like, of what you momma thinks and even of current fashion.  Focus on yourself. What do YOU like, and how do you want to feel in your clothes? It is cool to get inspiration from other people; as a matter of fact,  if I was richer, I could literally buy anything Folake from Style Pantry ever wore —with my eyes closed— and be happy. However, make sure to be listening to your own voice a lot more than anyone else’s. It’s the only one that matters here.

2. Find your best assets and show them off (if you are so inclined)

Let me preface this by saying that it’s YOUR decision as to what your best assets are. No matter how much people like a part of your physique, you will not feel comfortable highlighting it unless you agree with them. That said, what do you like about yourself? Be greedy: pick several spots on your body worth showing off (yes, there are several, I promise you) and determine whether you are okay playing them up in your outfits. Side note: playing something up does not have to mean baring it. Jeans highlight legs nicely, and a great blazer can accentuate shoulders while keeping them covered.

If you are struggling with this exercise, take a hard look at your closet and answer these questions:

What items do I like, and what garments make me feel happy? What clothes do I feel the most confident in, and what would I wear if I wanted to look my best?

The items you pick as a result of those questions should serve as the starting point of your style journey, as they likely highlight what you subconsciously believe to be your best assets.

Blogger @Dafrastar shares 6 fun steps to determine your look, in 6 simple steps
3. Analyze what you gravitate towards, in real life and in pictures.

By now, you should be pretty honest with yourself about what you like or do not like (if you still feel like you are dressing for other people, remember— this is YOUR style journey, mkay?). Now hop on Pinterest (I have a few boards you may like, wink wink ), grab a fashion magazine or just head over to Instagram. Start wildly scrolling and saving/earmarking anything that catches your eye, or anything you could honestly see yourself rocking with excitement. Do not be afraid to be bold either — I mean, we are only browsing photos here. Suits, skirts, dresses, shoes, gowns, freaking bikinis- save them all. After you do that for a few minutes (or hours or days), go back to your gallery and look at your shortlist. What do you notice? Are any items the same? Do they follow a pattern (or several)? How do the outfits make you feel? Which kind of items/colors/dressing styles keep coming back? Make note of all these things, delete the few looks that aren’t quite as exciting anymore and save some more images! We’re getting somewhere!

4. Unearth the connector words.

Okay- now the moment of truth. Look at all those gorgeous outfits. Quick, describe them all in 2-3 words! “Boho, floral, flowy!” or “Monochromatic, structured, sleek!” or “Relaxed, denim, androgynous!” Ta-da, there you go! You have a style profile! *does the happy dance*

Okay, that works like 5% of the time. In case you are still perplexed, try breaking things up by clothing type. How are your dressy outfits? How about your work looks? Any resemblance amongst your casual looks? What color palette or fit do you stick to?

If that does not work either, how about we split everything by garment type? How are your dresses? Your skirts? Do they all accentuate the same area of the body? Are they mostly minis, midis or maxis? Are your jeans mostly distressed? Dark wash? Skinny or relaxed?

Whether in plain sight or a little hidden, the connection is always there. Just give yourself a large enough sample size in earmarked outfits to be able to see the patterns emerge.

Blogger @Dafrastar shares 6 fun steps to determine your look
5. Bring it home.

Whew, now that we have done the hard part, we have to adapt your aspirational style profile to your everyday life. Indeed, for example, depending on where you work, “sexy, boho, chic” may be a little frowned upon; however, it could be incorporated in your wardrobe in the form of fun accessories or floral chiffon blouses under your blazers. Alternatively, “Edgy, leather, deconstructed ” sounds like a badass style profile, but it may not work very well in a classroom; that said, a leather cuff and a studded belt may give you just enough of the look to be true to yourself while following rules. You get my point.

Start “adapting” your style profile to your daily life. If all your photos feature sky-high heels, be ready to invest in a pair OR to recreate your looks with cute flats. Same thing for designer clothing and accessories; identify what you like about your picks and recreate the look for less (see here how to score great quality clothing for less), unless you can afford a closet full of Monique Lhuillier- in which case YOU GO, GIRL!

6. Take your brand new style for a spin!

Chances are, you already have items in your closet that match your ideal style. Rock them and pay attention to how you feel in them; create new outfits with the inspiration you gathered from your research; determine whether you want to add new connector words to your description, or remove some altogether; make sure you feel gorgeous and confident; have fun!!!

And remember: at the end of the day, they are only clothes. They come off.

 

Blogger @Dafrastar shares 6 fun steps to determine your look, in 6 simple steps

Bonus: My own journey

Putting my money where my mouth is… Below is my own journey through the 6 steps above. I really did use this framework, guys! I may not have known it at the time, but this is honestly how . found my “look”.

  1. This took me a while. I listened to everyone else’s thoughts on what I should be wearing for far too long and in the end, I had no style of my own. It took a minute for me to develop my own opinions.
  2. That was easy. I have a mini torso and long ass limbs, so legs was a no-brainer. More recently, I have also been on a weight loss journey for the past six months (23 lbs so far, woohoo!) so my newfound waist has been making its way up the list as well. I also like highlighting the hourglass figure I do not have.⏳
  3. The color black; jeans; anything that makes me look hourglass-y (so yay peplums/ mermaid skirts); minis; ankara clothes; black pointy-toed pumps; ratchet Instagram boutique dresses; thigh high boots.
  4. “Sophisti-ratchet, monochromatic, ethnic, curve-enhancing”. I love to bare random body parts in a classy (ish) way, I could wear black every day of my life, and I put my legs on display a little bit 😀. I am also a boxier than I would like, so I fake the hourglass shape God didn’t give me by sporting items that nip at the waist and flare out.
  5. I do that every day.
  6. I have solidly been in this wheelhouse for 5+ years, and it somehow never feels boring.

Done! And while all that is cool, we need deets on the outfit!

Blogger @Dafrastar shares 6 fun steps to determine your look, in 6 simple steps
  • Top: Twist X Turn high-low eyelet blouse. I fell in love with it immediately. I bought it along with its sister in a checkered pattern– LOVE them both. I cannot see the one I am wearing on the website for sale, even though it is on the homepage- weird. That said, the ties at the waist are stupid- they make zero sense, and I had to play around with them for a while to knot them in a way that worked for me. Still, I like the silhouette, the asymmetrical design and the overall elegant yet surprising feel this top has. Only wore it once so far (for this shoot), but it is comfortable and gorgeous.
  • Skirt: ZARA. This is a black pencil skirt, but it is fighting basicness by sporting a strip of PU leather and a band of lace. It does not look like much on a hanger, but I like the way it looks on.
  • Shoes: Steve Madden; worn here, here and here. Still hate them because they compress my feet, but they sure make my legs look a mile long.
  • Bag: Céline Phantom. This impulse buy was brought to you by poor decision making in collaboration with a long day at work; I am ashamed.

Dassit!!!!

Thanks y’all so much for rocking with me, and please leave any questions in the comments!

Until next time,

D

3 tips for when things do not go as planned | Sheer maxi dress

*Scary movie voice* WAZZZUUUUUP????

RISE AND SHINE, FASHIONABLE HUMANS! It is Wednesday and you are already killing this week and the weekend is near and life is just great. Right? Oh, and I am wearing sheer clothes today, but I have a (flimsy) reason, explained below.

This quick midweek post is about what we can do when life kicks us in the shins and forcefully reminds us that we do not have control over much. We all have those few projects in our life we planned for incessantly, only to have them go completely sideways. As I type this, I can actually think of no less than three examples in the past few months; as a matter of fact, this dress is an (itsy bitsy and trivial) example of a plan that did NOT work out, and I’ll chat about that below.

Blogger @Dafrastar featuring a sheer black maxi dress from boohoo.comWhat I am wearing: Boohoo sheer dress here, Amazon shorts here, Steve Madden sandals: similar here; Pillow here, rose gold color

So what do you do when things go to complete shit?

One: Calm the fuck down and analyze the situation.

Okay; so things are not going our way. At the first signs of failure, it is easy to panic and let the mind descend into chaos. I always urge myself to take a giant step back and detach my heart from my emotions, even just for a minute (maybe by going for a walk or taking a shower), so I may objectively assess whether the new developments are really THAT terrible.

  • Could we still have a similar outcome, just via a different route?
  • What do the unforeseen hurdles mean for us, and what are our odds of jumping over them?
  • Did the project really benefit us that much, or is the failure a blessing in disguise?

These little questions often help me breathe through setbacks and avoid reacting emotionally. Cool head, people.

Blogger @Dafrastar featuring a sheer black maxi dress from boohoo.com

Two: Take responsibility for our actions.

More often than not, plans fail because of our own lack of foresight, no matter how prepared we think we are. That’s fine; we make mistakes and learn from them. The key thing here is to actually acknowledge said errors, as there’s no point in making the same ones several times because we are too proud to admit that we screwed up. So while it feels like crap, it is necessary to truly understand the role we play in the demise of our own plans and vow to do better.

  • Could we have started work earlier on that project?
  • Did we trust the wrong people to help us, or did we let the wrong people into our circle?
  • Should we have done better research?
  • Could we have analyzed the situation better? Did we tweak it to fit our own narrative, and are now upset that reality is smacking some sense into us?

Being open to admitting our own wrongdoings is liberating because it helps us get out of our own way. I am guilty of often skipping this step when things go awry, but history has shown me that ignoring my own responsibility in my failures is like refusing to acknowledge that I gain weight when I eat candy- while blaming everyone else for my muffin top. 🙄

That said though, sometimes there is just nothing we could have done better. Things fail for no reason every once in a while, and that is perfectly okay. In those cases, it is necessary to mourn a bit, maybe mope for a couple of days, pray if religious, but eventually reach a point where we are at peace with the situation, accept the new reality and are able to see a way forward.

Blogger @Dafrastar featuring a sheer black maxi dress from boohoo.com

Three: Determine the new course of action and move on; REALLY move on.

Okay, so we’re done crying/ determining how terrible the setback is/ realizing we ain’t shit because we did contribute to the issue/ being upset at the whole world because we couldn’t even have avoided it/ etc. Awesome; now what?

Well- now we move forward while remembering the lessons, and we try to turn the situation around, somewhat salvage it or just call it a loss and move on. It could mean a lot of work, a loss of revenue or even a lost relationship, but hey- things happen.

  • Can we still work hard in that class and get an overall A even after that C or D?
  • Can we still be with that person after we gave them chance after chance after chance, only for them to keep disappointing us?
  • Can we still move to that city we love, even after the job or housing prospect fell through?

Answering those questions can be hard, but working through them is necessary to find a new way to march towards our goals or to create new ones.

Blogger @Dafrastar featuring a sheer black maxi dress from boohoo.com

On to today’s frock:

I first saw this sheer dress on Ashleigh from @thedaileigh. She rocked the white version of it, and it looked stunning on her. I was like: “I can totally pull this off” and ordered it (it helped that Boohoo had a 50% off sale). I was super happy with myself and could not wait to get it.

It came and… was waaaay more revealing than I could handle. I actually saw the pics on the website and they are pretty accurate as far as how sheer it is, so I do even not know what the heck I was expecting. Brain fart.

I received the dress the day of this shoot and ended up wearing it as a top, but upon coming home I immediately bought a pair of mini shorts on Amazon to wear with it. Because NO MA’ AM. If that had not worked, I would have sent it back.

I have only worn it for shoots so far, but I like it and would wear it during a warm vacation. I feel like the sheer tulle is not friends with high heels (they get caught in it), but the bust is opaque and comfortable. It is also a VERY long dress. I’m wearing the size L here (I always get a L in maxis because of my height, I’m 5″11) and it still drags on the floor, even with my 4-inch heels. My only gripe is the stitches on the chest, which are very unattractive to me. Boohoo and eShaki need to be friends, as they all love torpedo boobs.

Side note: Boohoo is having a 70% off sale right now (at least they did yesterday when I was writing this) and the white version of this dress is currently $14. If you have a vacation coming or just like the dress, it’s not a bad buy.

Blogger @Dafrastar featuring a sheer black maxi dress from boohoo.com

Well- that’s all folks! Thanks as usual for stopping by, and share below what you do when life takes a strange turn!

Until next time,

D

P.S. This look was photographed by @Tracey_Mammolito in my office. I love her work.

 

Monochromatic slay : Red from head to toe

Hello everyone, HAPPY FREAKING FRIDAY! This post is the final installment of my collab series with my boo @dorothy.abigail (Part 1 and 2 respectively here and here), and we are bringing you our take on monochromatic dressing. Please check her out and show her some love!

So I hope your week was LIT!<- I need to stop using this word. I hope you got a lot done, and I hope you are ready for whatever the weekend brings. I, personally, am getting ready for my sweatpants.

Dafrastar wearing a red monochromatic look from Zara (top and skirt) with Steve Madden shoes and a pear encrusted clutch. |red outfit| red outfit inspiration| monochromatic look| summer fashion inspiration|

This post will be a funny one, at least to me. I have been wanting to try monochromatic dressing for a while, for the main reason that I am lazy. I ABSO-FREAKING-LUTELY abhor matching clothes. It has to be one of my least favorite activities in the entire world- like who enjoys this? I HATE sitting around thinking- will this go with this? Or with this? It is- to me at least- one of the least productive ways to spend my time (generally going outside is a close second, but we can save that argument for another post. I am coming around to it though, but still- I am nobody’s hiking buddy.)

This deep seated hatred is probably why I will always love black, and  will always gravitate towards dresses/jumpsuits/shit that does not require too much work because it already covers top and bottom, or doesn’t really count- like denim. Nobody matches jeans. Okay, fine, jeans need to be matched sometimes too. F*ck.

Dafrastar wearing a red monochromatic look from Zara (top and skirt) with Steve Madden shoes and a pear encrusted clutch. |red outfit| red outfit inspiration| monochromatic look| summer fashion inspiration|

Aaaanyways, back to monochromatic dressing. So I had been telling myself I would try it one day, because it could open the door to me wearing more color without trying too hard. I randomly bought these 2 pieces a few months apart, thought they would work for this photoshoot, dug up a pair of red sandals, and was on my way. The one thing I can take really credit for is that I generally have a good sense of proportions in clothes; my mother taught me very early on not to wear a long skirt with a long top, or vice versa, and to always try to mix and match the lengths/ widths of my garments. I mean-  the woman dresses like it’s an Olympic sport, so I usually listen when she doles out sartorial wisdom.

Dafrastar wearing a red monochromatic look from Zara (top and skirt) with Steve Madden shoes and a pear encrusted clutch. |red outfit| red outfit inspiration| monochromatic look| summer fashion inspiration|

The reality, though, is that monochromatic dressing is a SCIENCE. Here’s how I know: I bought a book on monochromatic dressing last week, long after these pictures were taken. And then- I read in amazement as it crisply detailed and summarized things I nebulously kind of knew in my mind, but would have not been able to articulate. The explanations on how to craft a balanced monochromatic look are very simple, helpful and to the point. There are also a lot of images of what to do and NOT to do (God knows I needed that :/)

Dafrastar wearing a red monochromatic look from Zara (top and skirt) with Steve Madden shoes and a pear encrusted clutch. |red outfit| red outfit inspiration| monochromatic look| summer fashion inspiration|Monochromatic deets: Shirt, Zara, sold out: Similar here and here; Skirt, Zara, here, similar-ish here ; Sandals, Steve Madden Realove (discontinued, thank God because the arch sucks and they HURT), similar here; purse here

But for real though- reading this book and actually realizing my look matched some of the advice in it this made me feel like a kid whose teacher gave them an exercise that was too advanced, but they somehow nailed it- and even confused themselves. I was so ready to discover that I had done this all wrong. I mean, fine, there are no rules in fashion, but this book is written by Ashleigh from The Daileigh, so yeah- have you seen her Instagram? Bruh. I spent my $10 to learn how she puts those looks of hers together, aaaaand she told me I was actually not inept at fashion, so -that was money well spent in my eyes (yes, I paid for the book. No, I am not an affiliate of hers, or compensated in any way for my thoughts.)

Dafrastar wearing a red monochromatic look from Zara (top and skirt) with Steve Madden shoes and a pear encrusted clutch. |red outfit| red outfit inspiration| monochromatic look| summer fashion inspiration|However, I have to admit that my look falls under the most basic execution of monochromatic dressing she touches on; in the book, she shares dressing tips with varying shades of the same color , prints (!), and other things I will opt to stay far, far away from, at least for now. It was a good read and I am happy I bought it, but baby steps, m’kay?

Dafrastar wearing a red monochromatic look from Zara (top and skirt) with Steve Madden shoes and a pear encrusted clutch. |red outfit| red outfit inspiration| monochromatic look| summer fashion inspiration|

So let’s talk about the pieces:

  • The top: Solid. Works like gangbusters with a pencil skirt. Will give you pit stains, as it is satin. Otherwise good purchase.
  • The skirt: Super cute, but only wore it twice and gave it away because it rode up when I walked. I am 5″11, so I was running the risk of experiencing some cheek slip; not a good look.
  • The shoes: Cute but nope. There’s a reason they discontinued them.
  • The purse: OMG so cute!!!!! I lost maybe a pearl or two, but I can’t even tell. It can’t hold much though, so be ready to carry your phone in your hand if it’s larger than a pack of gum. Still a cute bag- it’s like a little pearled minaudière.

Dafrastar wearing a red monochromatic look from Zara (top and skirt) with Steve Madden shoes and a pear encrusted clutch. |red outfit| red outfit inspiration| monochromatic look| summer fashion inspiration|

Overall, for me, monochromatic dressing made for a cute and fun look. It looked and felt sophisticated, and it took me a mere 5 mins to put together. I will hopefully get some new red sandals soon, and will replace my skirt so I can revisit this outfit.

Please take a look below at my boo Dorothy slaying an all burgundy look! She’s to fabulous, I can’t.

In her own words:

I am from Curaçao;  everything on the island is very colorful and that also shows in fashion. Back in the day (some women still dress this way though) a lot of Curaçaoan women would dress in one color, but it would be called ghetto and unfashionable. And nowadays monochromatic outfits are a known trend in fashion.

 

@Dorothy.abigail on Dafrastar.com

@Dorothy.abigail on Dafrastar.com

 

That’s it for today people! Thanks as always for stopping by, and I hope to see you on my next post!

My look was photographed by the amazing @joyofodu in San Francisco.

 

Best,

D