5 things I wish I knew about growing up

Hello #fashionablehumans!!!

It is bright and early on Tuesday (well, on the West Coast) and I hope your Monday was stellar and shit.

Today, I wanted to do a tiny bit of reflection on growing up and fully becoming oneself. This post may get cheesy real quick— you’ve been warned. However, I would like to believe that I will touch on things that may make sense for some of you. Deal? Deal. Leggo.

Blogger Dafrastar chats about self- introspection and growing up as a person on www.dafrastar.com. Photography by Ringo Cheung from @apertureproduction in Central, Hong Kong.

Ten years ago, I was a completely different person (aren’t we all, though?). I mean- COMPLETELY different. My value system was not the same, I was a little stuck up, and —the biggest thing — I thought I had my whole life figured out. I was gonna graduate with a degree in finance, get married at 27 ish, move into a house with a white picket fence, adopt a puppy, get a job in my field of study and pop out 2 babies. Dunzo.

The thing is,  I now realize that I never took the time to wonder whether I gave 2 shits about any of the things above. I mean— yeah, some of those are milestones that many of us seek in life, myself included. Still, looking back, I am a little shocked at the fact that NEVER even questioned whether this very path was MY path. I just accepted it as being so and charged ahead.

Blogger Dafrastar chats about self- introspection and growing up as a person on www.dafrastar.com. Photography by Ringo Cheung from @apertureproduction in Central, Hong Kong.What I am wearing: Skirt: here, Top: here, similar here and here, shoes: here. Photo by Ringo Cheung in Hong Kong.

Fast forward a few years, life took some strange turns. I ended up in California, did not get married until 30, realized I hated finance, built a career in marketing and am in no rush to get babies ( I did get the puppy 🐶) . Here is the thing— I could not be happier with my current outcome. I am SO glad none of the things I wanted in my early twenties panned out; I realize today that I would have been miserable.

Blogger Dafrastar chats about self- introspection and growing up as a person on www.dafrastar.com. Photography by Ringo Cheung from @apertureproduction in Central, Hong Kong.I do believe that the complete 180 described above happened as a result of me being forced into new beginnings (broke up with my longtime boyfriend, graduated from college, grew apart from my best friend at the time, moved across the country to grad school). Those events set me free and allowed me to actually pursue what I wanted, and not what was expected of me, because I had nothing left to lose. I learned a lot about myself in those few years and grew leaps and bounds.

Today, I would like to chat about what I learned through those defining moments. Please share some of your defining life moments in the comments as well, and let’s all grow together!

Blogger Dafrastar chats about self- introspection and growing up as a person on www.dafrastar.com. Photography by Ringo Cheung from @apertureproduction in Central, Hong Kong.

Growth Lesson 1: The people around you may love you, but they can’t see the world through your eyes.

 

This is literally the most important thing I have ever learned: just because people are nice does NOT mean you should listen to their advice. The fact that they love you and wish you to succeed does NOT imply they know what is best for you. And yes, that includes your closest friends and parents.

In grad school, I did exactly the opposite of what I had done my whole life (aka been prescribed by my parents). I went for a (more) creative degree,  started a fashion blog (it was named Dafrastar too), and finally indulged into my love for fashion and beauty (that I had refused to nurture before because it felt vapid). I got to do what made me happy and still got a job after school, so win-win.

Blogger Dafrastar chats about self- introspection and growing up as a person on www.dafrastar.com. Photography by Ringo Cheung from @apertureproduction in Central, Hong Kong.Growth Lesson 2: You can’t prevent mistakes, but you can learn from them.

Literally no one has ever learned anything without making mistakes. Not one single human.

Therefore, be sure that you will make a lot of them, and some very dumb ones at that. You will look back and wonder what you were smoking.😄

Still, the most important part of a mistake is not the deed itself, but what you learn about yourself and the changes you subsequently make. Growing up is realizing that you do not know everything, and that you always have an opportunity to make better choices for yourself and the people around you. Doing the same thing over and over is the definition of insanity. Don’t be insane, especially when you fall flat on your face a couple of times.

Blogger Dafrastar chats about self- introspection and growing up as a person on www.dafrastar.com. Photography by Ringo Cheung from @apertureproduction in Central, Hong Kong.Growth Lesson 3: Listen to yourself, and have the courage to act upon what you hear.

To grow up —truly grow up— one has to be very, very honest with themselves.

Work on listening to yourself, understand your own wants and desires, but also make a solid inventory of your strengths and weaknesses. Then, with courage, work on forging your own unique path, based on who you are and what you know you can achieve. Don’t be delusional, but give yourself some credit.

My personal example: I always knew I was good at languages, but I went to a high school focused on math and physics because it was the prestigious thing to do. It was a horrible 4 years, where I saw my grades dwindle and my insecurities soar. On the surface, I was cool as a cucumber; deep down, I was battling with the truth, which was that I was not cut from the same cloth as my classmates. I painfully made my way through graduation, but guess what: a few months ago, I met 2 of my previous classmates a few days apart. Without talking to each other, they both wholeheartedly agreed that I should have never gone that path. See??? I was fooling no one!

Blogger Dafrastar chats about self- introspection and growing up as a person on www.dafrastar.com. Photography by Ringo Cheung from @apertureproduction in Central, Hong Kong.Growth Lesson 4: People don’t care, so you might as well do you, boo.

This one stings a little, but is still very true. People are all looking for their own happiness, and spend exactly 0.01 seconds a day thinking about you and what you do. Shying away from taking on new challenges or trying new and better things because of “what people will say” is literally the dumbest thing you can do. Period.

Growing up means realizing that what people think about you is absolutely none of your business. Not always easy to remember, but true. Live for you!

Blogger Dafrastar chats about self- introspection and growing up as a person on www.dafrastar.com. Photography by Ringo Cheung from @apertureproduction in Central, Hong Kong.

Growth Lesson #5: Be open and be kind.

A common thread with all the lessons above is acting on new things; this one is more about attitude. A major part of growth is being open to new people, cultures, experiences, ways of life— overall, things that are deeply different from the usual. I truly do believe that no growth happens in a silo. Living a sheltered life surrounded by similar people can lead to intolerance and overall ignorance about the world.

My biggest learning experience was moving to the US. My 2nd biggest learning experience was actually opening myself up to the American way of life, which did not happen until a few years in, when I stepped out of the protective “International Student Posse” bubble. Interacting with people who were very different from me was scary, but oh so useful. In most cases, curiosity turned into tolerance which then morphed into acceptance. I learned a lot more about myself than I learned about others in this discovery process, and the exchanges created by my new openness broke a lot of stereotypes and preconceived notions I did not even know  I had. I do believe that I am a more mature and better-rounded person as a result.

As a conclusion, guys, growing up has nothing to do with age. It has everything to do with discovering oneself, making peace with it and using this newfound identity to reach for others and for the stars. I personally strive to keep seeking growth every day, and I hope you do too.

Blogger Dafrastar chats about self- introspection and growing up as a person on www.dafrastar.com. Photography by Ringo Cheung from @apertureproduction in Central, Hong Kong.

On to the outfit!

So, I went to Hong Kong over Christmas. It was an amazing experience in and of itself, but I took advantage of my time there to do a photo shoot. When I tell you it was one of the most incredible experiences of my life, I am NOT exaggerating. I will eventually dedicate a whole post to that whirlwind of a day, but man— was it intense, and incredibly fun!

The look:

The bustier: This is a random studded leather bustierI got from Forever 21 EONS ago. It made my “Donate” pile more than once, but somehow always made its way back to my closet. It is not super supportive, the cups have the depth of the teaspoon and it digs into my armpit fat, but I still love this cheap little number. Not meant for busty ladies AT ALL, and mostly sold out (except here). Similar here and here.

The skirt: I fell in love with this skirt several moons ago on Etsy, and I finally got to wear it! It is exactly what it looks like: a huge, voluminous tulle skirt that serves you drama by the fistful. It needs no petticoat to poof up, which I love; however, it wrinkles VERY easily; I ironed it for 1 hour before it could be photoshoot ready. It just makes everything look grand; I am not giving up on finding a way to dress it down though. Watch me.

The shoes (not that you can see my feet): Wearing my trusty Steve Madden Stecy sandals, featured here, here and in so many other posts on this blog I lost count.

OK – Dassit!!!!

Thank you guys so much for rocking with me; share some thoughts below! What did you learn when you grew up?

Until next time,

With Love,

D

Why I am making NO resolutions this year — and why you shouldn’t either

OMG #fashionablehumans, the year is OVER!!!! I won’t lie, I have a few unresolved feelings about this. I feel like 2017 was a very long year, but at the same time— it FLEW by.

Obviously, the end of any year always brings (cliché) reflections on oneself and one’s life path, which often leads to New Year resolutions, and yadda yadda. I mentioned before that this year has been… interesting for me; I went through deep struggles, took many (MANY) leaps of faith, worked harder than I ever have and slept around 20 mins every month. THAT SAID, I will say in all honesty that  2017 was a good year— you know, the kind of good that is akin to the gym? It sucks while you’re on that stupid treadmill, but the long-term results are worth it! (I don’t run tho, eff that).

I am hoping that 2018 is even more successful than 2017 for all of us; that said, I will not be sitting down to make any resolutions for that to happen. Nope. Do I have goals? You betcha. However, I believe that none of them will be attained through a New Year resolution, simply because they just don’t work— at least not for me.

By the way, let it be known that this is not a rant; while I am not here for New Year resolutions, I still want this post to be joyful and filled with gratitude. There will be 4 letter words aplenty, but ya know—they just add emphasis.

Here we go: My reasons why New Year Resolutions ain’t shit.

A Resolution does not only work on January 1st; we can improve year round.

Blogger Dafrastar discussing New Year goals: www.dafrastar.com

I used to be the worse at this! I would have lengthy resolutions every January, and they would fail by February… or really, by January 10th. Remember this Peniel Enchill drawing that made its way through 99% of Facebook timelines in 2015? (I love her illustrations btw, and I am hell bent on commissioning one from her when I have the $$$). How many of the people who touted this picture on their pages were in the same place, with the same drama, the same shortcomings and the same troubles come July (me included, even though I did not actually share this image)?

I agree that we should all try to be the best version of ourselves; I know I strive to do so every day. However, guess what: those changes are not related to celestial mechanics. Nope. We don’t need to wait for the beginning of a new year to work on ourselves, go after what we want, make healthier choices or take care of our hearts. If you feel like January 1st really gives you a clean slate to start new habits, by all means- own that shit. However, all of us need to remember that that day is followed by 364 other days that are just as good to make changes. 🙂

I agree that we should all try to be the best version of ourselves; I know I strive to do so every day. However, guess what: those changes are NOT related to celestial mechanics. Nope. We don’t need to wait for the beginning of a new year to work on ourselves.

A resolution is only words; words don’t work without… well, work.

 

Blogger @Dafrastar discusses the need to make new year resolutions on her blog, www.dafrastar.com

This one may be the most important one. Tying into the point above, I personally feel like I grew accustomed to wishing for a ton of things at the beginning of every year, and having nothing materialize— like, ever. I call those wishes dreams because that’s exactly what they were; a list of aspirational goals I would muse about, imagining how my life would be if I could attain them.

The issue is that I never did much about the “attaining” part.  I just sat there wishing, or completely half-assed attempts to make those (often very attainable) dreams a reality. Why? I have no idea. A deeper exploration of my psyche is needed to unpack that.

Y’all ever heard that quote “The dream is free; the hustle is sold separately”? Exactly. Resolutions (for me, at least) are often fueled by emotion, optimism from having fun on NYE, Facebook ads for new exercise plans, the smell of shiny new planners, and other generally inconsequential things.  They are easy to give up because all of the above fades after the 3rd conference call on January 2nd.

To make a resolution a reality, A LOT of discipline is needed to push through hurdles when the NYE euphoria has left the building. The dreams I have achieved lately have been made possible by flexing those discipline muscles HARD, grunting through every  step of the process, but emerging stronger on the other side of it (again, just like a treadmill! And no,  I am STILL not running!)

So develop that courage and discipline. Understand that progress is better than perfection, embrace the inevitable falls and give it your all. That’s how dreams come true, and a pretty resolution on a shiny new planner page does not capture that reality.

 

(…) Develop (…) courage and discipline. Understand that progress is better than perfection, embrace the inevitable falls and give it your all. That’s how dreams become true, and a pretty resolution on a shiny new planner page does not capture that reality.

A Resolution can feel forced; just let shit flow, man.

Blogger Dafrastar discussing New Year Resolutions: www.dafrastar.com

This one is super straightforward. On January 1st, people around you may be rushing to make a list of things they swear they will commit to— because others are doing it too. To that, I say “Fuck peer pressure”.

There are many reasons why January 1st may not make you want to change a damn thing in your life. For example, what if:

  • You want to give things some more thought?
  • You don’t want to be tied to a decision made within a split second?
  • You are actually pretty happy with your life, have found the right “formula” to keep you fulfilled,  and just want to keep doing what you are doing for a while?
  • … <insert a whole lot of other reasons here>

Work on things in your own time, not because everyone is magically supposed to commit to self-betterment every 365 days. That’s silly. You own your life, change it when you are ready and committed.

Work on things in your own time, not because everyone is magically supposed to commit to self-betterment every 365 days. That’s silly.

Finally: my wishes to all of you for the New Year

In spite of not liking resolutions very much, I am not a New Year Grinch; I love looking back at the past 12 months, assessing what made me happy (or less happy), and trying to do more (or less) of that. I therefore know that 2018 will likely be full of new firsts and new discoveries. I also already know that I will continue to courageously walk away from things that do not serve my life (like my ego— I hate that bitch). I am looking forward to clumsily work on patience, humility, openness and communication. I don’t need a New Year resolution for any of these things, because they are ongoing.

 

That said, to all of you, I wish an amazing, amazing new year.

  • I wish you love, happiness, prosperity and someone (or someplace) to always call home.
  • I wish you to step a little out of your comfort zone; most fun things in this world lie on the other side of fear.
  • I wish you to recognize that you are worth everything, and that you are too cool to let yourself down. Take courage, try new things, and let go of stale shit. You are special, act like it.
  • I wish you warm embraces from family and bestie- induced belly-aching laughs.
  • I wish you to have enough discernment to understand when you may be wrong, so you can make it right.

But above it all, I wish you good health. Please be well.

Thank you guys for an amazing 2017, from the bottom of my heart. This year has been stellar, and my little blog thanks you. Here’s to an even better 2018!

Until next time,

With Love,

D

P.S: I will have a post dedicated to this outfit in the next few weeks; these photos were taken in Hong Kong by Ringo from Aperture Production. It was the most INSANE photoshoot I ever had in my life, in a great way!

 

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What I wish I knew when I started college | Collab with Behind the Schmile

Hello #FashionableHumans!

How are you guys doing on this fine Sunday? Stellar, I hope!

Today, our post will be a little different. It is a collab with the awesome Tisha from BehindtheSchmile, and it is kind of a questions/answers mixed up with a dash of “What I wish I could tell my younger self”. Makes sense? No? Read on.

You guys mostly know me as Dafrastar. While this is who I am on this blog, there is obviously a plethora of real-life things that I never mentioned on here. Let’s pick one of those up today and peel off a few layers— almost a decade later: my college/university experience. Time fucking flies.

How did I end up in the US for college? 

I immigrated to the United States when I was 19, in the quest for a well-rounded college education— like many others. Amidst many a struggle, I completed my undergraduate degree in the middle of the financial crisis (of course, I had to have a major in FINANCE ). Obviously, at that point, finding a job in my field sucked major ass, so I ended up working in marketing (which I had been dabbling in for a while, and found significantly more rewarding.) That worked out for about a year, so I bit the bullet and headed back to grad school to get an MBA— with hopes of switching careers for good. After that, I moved to the West Coast and I have been here ever since, pursuing a career in digital marketing. Best decision ever.

If the paragraph above is any indication, one’s career seems to rarely work as planned; mine surely didn’t. Most bright eyed and bushy tailed freshmen don’t know shit (and yes, there are amazing exceptions, but I am talking about gen-pop here, myself included). Students often have to rely on what their parents told them to do.  I sure was; who do you think wanted me to become a banker? Mommy dearest.

As a result, I experienced my fair share of panic attacks when life’s twists and turns hit me— squarely in the jaw. I watched in horror as the stock market (and my hopes of an entry-level job on Wall Street) plummeted beyond recognition, months shy of my graduation. I despaired after receiving rejection email after rejection email, for internships and jobs alike. I freaked out when awakening to who I really was and what I really wanted, and struggled to reconcile that persona with what I thought a finance professional was like. I could go on, but you get the gist.

However, somehow, in the midst of all that chaos, shit worked out. Looking back, I still believe there had to be some magical force guiding me to be where I am today, even if that meant failing at what I thought I wanted THEN. Therefore, the gist of my answers to Tisha is:

“It will be okay; if not, you will learn from it. No need to be scared.”

(By the way, my experience may not be the same as yours, and you may disagree with me. I would love to hear about it in the comments!)

Thoughts on Tisha’s points

 

Grades:

Will not matter in 5 years– but the way you get them will.

Grades are not important in themselves. School really is NOT about you having good grades, but instead about teaching you a set of skills that generally leads you to have good grades: time management, discipline, resourcefulness. Unfortunately, there is no degree in hustling, so that A in Biology will have to do.

What I wish someone would  have taught me

Aim for good grades, but cramming your way there defeats the purpose- you are learning nothing AND are failing to invest in yourself.

Develop good habits through your college career, and good grades will come. (Good habits are also way more useful on the job than the ability to cram.) Moreover— grades really do not really matter after your first job. Even better: nail a couple of good internships, and your 1st employer may even overlook a crappy GPA (A 1.8 is NOT overlook-able though, so please don’t use that excuse to dick around.)

Blogger @Dafrastar shares her college experience and learnings
Undergrad graduation, with mom
Work:

Will matter in 5 years— no way around this one.

This one is hard, and I agree with Tisha– I was secretly hyperventilating while walking across the stage because I graduated (both times) with no offers in hand. TBH, I was also a bit of a fatalist and heavily leaned on my immigration status to justify me not getting through interviews. While there was definitely some truth to that point, I see things a little differently today. I love to believe that I was a hard worker, but I can see now that lost sight of what was important and focused on just making it through. I indeed put myself through my last 2 years of college and worked 80 hours per week in addition to school. I had no friends outside of a very small group, experienced nothing new and just put my head down and tried to survive. When I “awoke” to try to find a job in my last semester, I was waaaay behind people who had been networking and interning for 4 years.

 

What I wish someone would have told me

It is never too early to start looking.

It is important to go to networking events, contact people/alumni killing it in their careers, start putting together a polished resume, connect with your parents’ friends and then with their friends; leave no stone unturned! In addition to this, getting close to professors is always a good idea– they have industry knowledge AND industry friends! Keeping your head down is admirable, but not smart.

To keep the confusion and panic away, I would also remind myself that college is made to get exposure to as many different experiences as possible. If you are bored with your major, pick a minor that sparks more interest (but please do not lose sight of your goals.) Request an independent study in an area of your major that may not be taught in school (you are paying top dollar for that education, so it better provide you with what you need.). Start a blog about something fun.

While these things seem random, they are all ways to 1) discover what you really want to do and 2) build up your resume with interesting projects that may help you stand out of the crowd.

I’m not just BS-ing you either: I personally requested an independent study in Digital Marketing during my MBA, because it was not taught in class. I started a fashion blog (yep, it was also called Dafrastar), I used Google Adwords credits to learn how to create search ads for my blog and just hustled my way into understanding online marketing through a hands-on approach. Based on feedback from my interviewers, I can stand here today and tell you FOR SURE that those extra-curricular activities ARE what I owe my first job in online marketing to. Real talk.

Blogger @Dafrastar shares her college experience and learnings
Master’s graduation
Reputation/ Social status/ Relationships

COULD matter in 5 years (mostly won’t), but the way you navigate them can determine your standards in the future;  don’t let yourself down.

School is a micro-ecosystem in which everyone has to survive and hopefully flourish. Some of that flourishing will be through new friends/ relationships. For most, this is the first time away from home, the first time away from family, and the first time they can hang out with whomever they want without parental supervision. While this can be a heady feeling, the truth is that very few of these seemingly intense relationships will pass the test of time— and that’s okay!

What I wish someone would have told me

There is a whole world ahead of you after college.

 

I broke up with my long-term boo (we are talking nine years of dating here) 2 weeks after graduating from undergrad, so I really wish someone was there to remind me of that then. I wasn’t especially sad because it was not the greatest union, but I was still in my feelings a bit.

Today, I know that there is fun, laughter, throbbing hearts, nasty backstabbing, heartbreak and sometimes even loss throughout those 4 college years. However, guess what: even the shitty experiences are needed, because they forge character. Keep one thing in mind: you are forging your adult personality, so do not accept anything you would not want your future self to tolerate. College is a large enough environment to distance yourself from bullies, make friends with people from different backgrounds and expand your horizons beyond what your parents taught you. Mingle with the computer whiz kids, the musicians, the pre-med majors, anyone who will talk to you. I am not saying be desperate, I am saying be OPEN. Also, be nice, have integrity and do not let anyone treat you like dirt (friends or romantic interests). Aaaaand if you’re gonna be a hoe, use condoms. Please, for the love of baby Jesus in a manger.

Blogger @Dafrastar shares her college experience and learnings
Then boyfriend, now husband. Met him a year after breakup mentioned above.
Mental Health

Will matter in 5 years and forever, really

People do not realize that depression and overwork/ burnout are very real in the student community. Just because we make fun of it does not make it okay; we are supposed to take care of ourselves.

My college career was like a like a Formula 1 race: super fast, with a ton of work happening behind the wheel. I never gave myself the right to rest, because I was poor and HAD to work to eat and go to school. I worked myself to the bone because I assumed that diligence was the only thing that would get me places. While true, overwork also landed me in the school infirmary, haggard (and then sobbing uncontrollably) on a Monday afternoon in my senior year. I was prescribed anti-depressants and sent to an emergency appointment at the hospital. I ended up refusing the medication and forcing myself back to health by traveling and cutting hours at work (I do not recommend neglecting medical advice, by the way). I did fail a class for the first time ever that semester (saw my Summa Cum Laude slip right away from my grasp), but I survived.

What I wish someone would have told me

It is okay to rest. Vacations are not only for other people. Sleep is a thing, you know? You cannot work three jobs and maintain a 4.0. Heartbreak sucks, but it will pass. You need to take care of your health, it’s the most precious thing you have. 

This last point is likely the most important. Without it, everything crumbles to dust.

A couple of final points:
  • Learn professionalism
    • Show up on time, give your best, overdeliver and make sure you are always a valuable asset. That is a lifelong battle. You do not become hardworking all of a sudden because you land a job. You have to work at being hardworking.
  • Study abroad!!!!!
    • If you can, pack that suitcase and go! Just… go. The world awaits! Also, never stop traveling if you can.

Soooo- dassit for this post! Do you have any college advice for your younger self? Drop it in the comments! Also make sure to read Tisha’s post– our POVs are really complimentary, and her post is so much fun! Thanks again Tisha, for allowing me to collborate with you on this!

Thanks so much for stopping by today guys!

Until Next time,

D

 

10 Random Facts about Me

Hello hello #fashionablehumans!

By the way- we are coining this expression. I checked Instagram and this hashtag only has, like, 3 posts- dassit, we’re taking it.

How have you guys been, and how was your holiday? Did you travel to go see family, or did you host?  Personally, I have been super busy yet super happy!  Life is good and I am overflowing with gratitude; I just need to remember to pray more often, swear less and drink my water (as of right now I am drinking wine tho).

Blogger @Dafrastar sharing 10 Random facts about her, rocking Missguided, Stuart Weitzman and Moon River . More on the blog!So- in spite of me yapping for paragraphs on each single one of my posts,  I realized last week that you guys really do not know much about me at all. I was prepping to post my last look from London, and I seized the opportunity to write a bit of a more personal post! To be honest- as much as I love fashion, I often feel that posts only focusing on clothing can be a little dry. For example, I am enjoying the heck out of my Fall 2017 Trends series; however, I also love to share some personal learnings and experiences as well.

Blogger @Dafrastar sharing 10 Random facts about her, rocking Missguided, Stuart Weitzman and Moon River . More on the blog!I have seen the “10 random things about me” tag floating around for quite a while. I never fail to read one; I feel like they give me a neat insight into who people really are, social media/ blogger personas aside. Like- they can speak fluent Russian, are amateur salsa dancers or cosplayed as Sailor Moon last year at Comicon. That shit is just so cool to me!

Sooooo I am trying my hand at it. Let me know if anything surprises you, if you knew everything or if we have some things in common!

10 Random things about me

  1. I am an only child. I feel like that has molded me into being someone who is not at all afraid of loneliness. I am really good at entertaining myself, and I am honestly rarely (if ever) bored.  The main downside to this is that I tend to assume others function the same way; I pack my days full of activities, often forgetting to bake in time to spend with other people.
  2. I love books. I easily read 1-2 MEATY books per month; at some point, I was really into fiction and finished a book every weekend like clockwork. I do not discriminate as far as genres are concerned: fiction, romance, mystery, self-help, nutrition, fitness, professional development, even prose (I cannot last through that shit though, it hurts my brain). The last opened books in my Kindle app currently are:

“Necessary Restorations” by Kate Canterbary (finished it- I love the whole Walsh series and read every book twice, don’t judge me- or judge away, whatever lol)

“Strong Curves” by Bret Contreras and Kellie Davis (just started today, I am very excited about the workouts in this book)

A sample of “Algorithms to Live by: The Computer Science of Human Decisions” by Brian Christian & Tom Griffiths (not started- I actually bought it for a friend in paperback and grabbed a Kindle sample for myself to check it out. She’s smart, so I am sure anything she picks is a good book)

“Drive: The Surprising Truth about what Motivates Us” by Daniel Pink (I’m on the last few chapters, good learnings)

“Outliers: The Story of Success” by Malcolm Gladwell (finished it, very easy read but pretty interesting; can’t wait to read another one of his books.)

  1. I speak 3 languages fluently, and English is the 3rd one. Dioula (my mother tongue, pronounced dee-oo-luh ) and French were the first languages I spoke. I did not start speaking English daily until I was 19 years old, when I moved to the US for college.
  2. I LOVE the Harry Potter series. I have watched every single one of the movies maybe 10 times and I own every single one of the books (as physical copies and in kindle format). I judge anyone who cannot say “wingardium leviosa”, or worse- who has no idea what it means.
  3. Finding jeans is extremely hard for me because I have a short torso and longer legs. I am also 5″11, which does not help. I need an inseam of 35″- 36″to be comfortable, which greatly limits my choices. Oh, and I have a shoe size of 11. Fun.
  4. When I was 19, I competed in a TV show akin to the French version of Jeopardy. I made it to the finals and won a lot of books and chocolate (It was around Easter). I lost to a history teacher, so I was honestly cool with it- listen, I was still perplexed as to how I made it that far.
  5. I got married twice… to the same man. My husband is Indian, so we had a regular wedding with the white dress, cake, bridesmaids etc. and an Indian wedding where I wore a red lehenga. It was fucking epic.
  6. I have a speech impediment; I have been stuttering since I was 6. It does not bother me that much in daily life; as a matter of fact, I have had A LOT of years to practice concealing it, so many people have no idea. I did go to speech therapy for it and got better, but I have since relapsed. I really should go again.
  7. I cannot drink coffee- It is BITTER!!!!! How do you guys do it??? I tried so many times, and I just can’t. Nope. I understand that people can have a taste for it, I appreciate the amount of work that goes into bean selection and roasting, but the beverage itself is just FOUL to me. I love the smell of a freshly brewed pot though.
  8. I do not watch TV. Like none. I do watch Netflix here and there (usually to keep my ears busy when I’m doing my hair), but I do not have the commitment to sit in front of the TV for anything. Everything that I know about TV personalities, I found out on social media. For world news, I catch up pretty easily via a triangulation of Twitter, FB, news apps, Reddit and my husband lol.

There you go, this is it!

Here are more photos of my outfit below, as well as a quick 411:

Blogger @Dafrastar sharing 10 Random facts about her, rocking Missguided, Stuart Weitzman and Moon River . More on the blog!

  • Top: Black sheer bodysuit; used it several times on the blog, here and here for example. It’s from AliExpress and is available here. I love it so much I actually bought two more; one identical and one with a crew neck. The utility I get out of these is amazing- I wore the older one maybe 10 times, and that nets out to less than $1 per wear.
  • Boots: Another blog favorite, here and here. They are the Stuart Weitzman LeggyLady, mostly sold out everywhere but here’s a similar pair here.
  • Blazer: First feature on the blog, but wore it several times already! It is from Missguided, and it is a much much much more affordable version of this one by Balmain; found out about it from a Jennie Jenkins fashion haul, and I have seen the Balmain blazer on Folake from Style Pantry several times in the past years (here, here). EVERY. TIME she wears it, it is DROOL WORTHY. That woman can DRESS. Anyway, back to our train of thought–this Missguided blazer has none of the structure its higher-end cousin benefits from (Jennie compares both in her video, at 10:23– you’re welcome )- but it is a cute blazer, it looks nice with jeans/ minis/ shorts and has a good length. I also scored it for 50% off during a random sale by Missguided, yay!  I will say though- mine is a little too large for my taste, and I wish I had sized down. (Got an 8, and I am an 8 in real life as well.)
  • Shorts: those corduroy shorts were a totally random purchase from Nordstrom Rack, and they were $10!!! They are here, and I also just found a pair on Poshmark (they are from a brand called Moon River).  I will highlight that I wear them back to front because they have cargo pockets in the front, which makes little to no sense to me. Like, why do we need crotch framing pockets? No one needs to highlight their nether regions that badly, and back pockets make MUCH more sense. They are super comfy though, super sassy and overall awesome. I wore them 2 or 3 times when I was in the UK (bought them the day before my trip).

Blogger @Dafrastar sharing 10 Random facts about her, rocking Missguided, Stuart Weitzman and Moon River . More on the blog!

That is it for this blog post! As always, thanks a lot for stopping by and hanging out with me. I would like to tag Shannon from Champagne at Shannon’s, Tisha from Behind the Schmile, Debbie from To Thine Own style be True, Antonia from the Midwest Wife , Yawa from Stilettos and Pearls , Josie from Petite + Bold  and Louisa from La Passion Voûtée to take a stab at it, as well as all of you! If you do it, please leave your link below- I would love to read your list!

Look captured by @mishmash_photography at the Tower of London.

Until next time!

With Love,
D

Birthday Post! 7 things I learned this past year.

Happy Saturday fashionable humans!!!

It is my birthday today and I am very very excited😆. I am honestly ridiculously stoked about my birthday every year, even though I rarely do anything extravagant.

This year, I am far away from home, but I am still pumped! I am fortunate enough to be in London for work, so while last week was PACKED with meetings, I still feel like the luckiest girl in the world.

I usually am not one of those people who take the time to reflect on shit. I do learn from my mistakes, of course, but, until recently, I rarely sat down to write things and make affirmations and stuff. However, after reading a few books that outlined the importance of reflection in actual writing, I have been trying to consciously sit the fuck down, think about things and write what I feel and I want to achieve: personal goals, family goals, professional goals, fitness goals, aspirations and all kinds of fun and positive things.

Therefore, on my birthday, 10/28/2017, I would like to share with you 7 little things I learned this year. Maybe they will be useful to you, maybe not; either way, I hope this post is entertaining!

In celebration of her birthday, blogger @Dafrastar shares 7 things she learned in the past year.What I am wearing: Dress, Boohoo (here); bag, @theresacotton Francis Clucth (gifted, thoughts below; here); Shoes, Justfab Hadley (here); Silk Bangles, IndianCraftsville (here). Lipstick is @colouredraine Cherry Blossom (here)
Birthday reflection 1:
Circumstances will reveal who you are; take action accordingly.

I came across this parabola/proverb thing a few years ago, but did not fully grasp it until this year. Here’s the thing: I consider myself very lucky. At the same time- 2016 and 2017 were complete b*tches, which strangely also brought about some of the highest highs of my life. Adversity turned me into a carrot, then an egg. Finally, one day, it clicked that I needed to suck it up and use life’s  punches to become stronger, and I turned into coffee. Hard circumstances have brought the best out of me on so many fronts: discipline, positivity, courage, and many other things that are kind of necessary not to suck at life. So don’t be scared: let hard times come by, and use them to change you for the better. Circumstances do NOT own you; you own your reactions to them.

Birthday reflection 2:
Everything you want lies on the other side of fear

Fear is generally a good thing meant to protect us from harm; snakes can be shitty, spiders may kill you, and anyone who tickles people should not be trusted. That said, fear can also keep us from living our lives to the fullest; know the difference, and please don’t let that happen to you. Don’t be my Mom’s friend who let the love of her life pass her by, because she was scared to ask her family to marry a man from a different religion (she is still single.) Don’t be that person who never tried anything because they never wanted to get out of their comfort zone; you may regret it. It took me 5 years to kick my own ass to (re)start Dafrastar, as I could not stop thinking about what people would think. I assumed they would feel that I was trying super hard to be relevant, and would laugh at me behind my back. You know what? If that’s indeed the truth, let them. Who cares? 🤷🏿‍♀️ So go on that trip, take that hot air balloon ride, wear those white jeans or go to that salsa class. Either way, you will have a great story to tell and another experience to remember.

Birthday reflection 3:
…And hard work

There is no way around it. When you want something, you have to understand that it WILL NOT fall in your lap, wrapped up with a nice little bow. Hiding behind sayings like “God willing, I will do X…” without actually doing shit will only cause you heartbreak. There isn’t really any replacement for diligently working at things to achieve mastery (even if asymptotically). For me, setting a goal and putting in the necessary work brings me a freedom and excitement I cannot even explain. No one can take the fruits of your labor away from you (unless you let them), and no one can steal your knowledge/ weight loss/ gym gains/ professional achievements from you. So work hard. Read that extra chapter; go to that networking event; take the time to understand that convoluted spreadsheet;  read that extra material to be prepared for that meeting. At the same time, hustle; find people to mentor you in what you are doing, ask questions, go to coffee with people smarter than you, and honestly do EVERYTHING you can to make it. Don’t half ass anything, it’s not cool to “barely try”. Flexing on the ‘Gram can wait (unless you are a blogger, then flex to the MAX! 😂)

In celebration of her birthday, blogger @Dafrastar shares 7 things she learned in the past year.

Birthday reflection 4:
It’s okay to want more for yourself.

You know what scares me? Waking up one day and thinking: “I could have done more with my life.” It sounds like a trivial thing, but I am so scared of growing old and seeing in hindsight all the things I could have done, but somehow decided not to pursue because I got comfortable. I cannot explain this point as well as the ones above, but this lady can! On her channel one day, I was listening to a video about purpose; she shared this quote, and it made me think very hard.

“The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry our their dream.”

Les Brown

I am filled with the dread of leaving a “rich grave” behind. I beat myself up for years and wondered what else I could do besides the usual (school, work, volunteering, family), and often felt greedy because- as I said, I feel very fortunate already. However, that guilt has eased up in this past year, as I realize it’s okay to demand more of myself, and it’s okay for me to want to explore everything I may be able to do. As of today, I do not have anything planned nor do I think that I have any talent besides my job, but by my next birthday, I hope to be working on something more than “the usual”.

Birthday reflection 5:
Respect your time.

That’s the only thing that we can never recover once it’s gone. In this past year, I have strived for every minute of the day to be spent doing something meaningful. Did I succeed? Hell no, far from it. However, that taught me the value of time, and I have started to respect it a lot more– mine and other people’s. So drop that flaky friend, stop wasting evenings waiting for that fuckboy to call you back, leave that dead-end job where you aren’t learning shit. Analyze your daily habits and CUT whatever does not serve you; replace it with something enjoyable or something that teaches you something. For me, it meant a lot more books and a lot less aimless social media browsing. I still stay on Insta, but I now have set times to browse. It helps, I swear!

Birthday reflection 6:
Don’t let the disease of perfection paralyze you. She’s a b*tch.

True, whatever you want to do is worth doing well and working hard at. That said, you cannot wait for perfection to get started on … anything, really. Just fucking try shit, and learn as you go. I will use the Dafrastar example again here: I completed maybe 12 photo shoots before launching. I was/am taking a blogging class, and I could not, for the life of me, find my “niche”. My blogging instructor was honestly not that helpful; she suggested I do not launch until I did, and when I told her I wanted to focus on “affordable fashion”, she told me it was not that original and that a ton of other bloggers did it. She was correct, but I was salty; after a few days, I started stalling because I was avoiding dealing with my niche-less blog ideas. I did not touch my class materials for a month. One day, something urged me to just go for it, in spite of the advice I had received. Within 3 days, I secured a collab with my girl @dorothy.abigail, finished setting up my theme, wrote my first post and hit “Publish”. Here we are 2 months later, almost 20 posts in, and little old niche-less me is doing alright. While my instructor had a point, I am still glad I jumped in and learned how to swim. My niche will eventually come to me.

 

In celebration of her birthday, blogger @Dafrastar shares 7 things she learned in the past year.

Birthday reflection 7:
Listen and be open to change.

I ate a lot of humble pie this year. I took constructive feedback from my boss, colleagues, husband, and friends–like we all do. However, this year, something in me helped me to receive it much better than I would have– say, 5 years ago. Dunno, maybe it’s age? Perhaps it’s my husband’s influence? (he is very level headed).  Either way, I try to be permeable to advice and gentle coaching. It sucks often, but it is necessary in life and helps us grow.

 

 

On to my outfit, super quick! I put it together to recreate this picture (I am wearing the same dress in it).

I missed by chooda bangles, and for anyone familiar with Indian culture, a bride is not supposed to re-wear her choodas ever again. So I just cheated and just bought cool red bangles to wear instead.

  • My dress is a basic ass black midi dress from Boohoo. I bought it in 2015 and it is (by some kind of miracle) still available, so I assume it is one of their fixtures. It is a little sheer, but I could totally get away with tights (without too, actually). It has a bit of a deep plunge, so I would add a cami under for the office. I think the length is a perfect midi on me, and I am wearing a size 8 (I am a size 8 in real life as well.)
  • My shoes are from JustFab, and they are named Hadley. They hurt like a mother, but are so gorgeous that I do not have the heart to throw them out, even though I wore them only thrice in 3 years. They are knockoffs of these Aminah Abdul Jillil ones, and that’s what I get for buying bootleg shit. I will hopefully buy the real ones someday.
  • My bag was kindly gifted to me by @theresacotton on Instagram. She reached out to me and asked me to choose from any of her offerings, and this one caught my eye because I already had this look in mind. The bag is a good size for a clutch or a low key bag for days when a huge purse is not needed. I have been using it quite a bit (used it thrice since I have been here in London, not including this shoot) and could actually fit my iPad in it (it was a struggle though.) It has decently thick lining, so I did not fear it getting damaged inside. I wish it had an inside pocket and a longer zipper, so I could fit my tablet in without threatening to tear the bag. I am definitely going to be looking at more Ankara bags.
  • My bangles are from IndianCraftsville on Etsy and Instagram. They were made and hurried to me in record time before my trip, and I can’t thank the owner enough. I however wish they had a larger opening, as it hurts to take them out.

DASSIT!

Thanks for listining to my musings, and here’s to another year. Thanks for reading, and I will see you next week!

This look was photographed by Michelle from @MishMash_photography in London.

With Love,

D

 

 

5 tips to enjoy your wedding day to the max, featuring my wedding dresses :)

Go shawty, it’s your birthday! (I couldn’t think of any song featuring the word “anniversary” so yeah.) 2 little years down!!! ❤

I can’t believe it, but at the same time, it feels like forever. By the way, let me stop you RIGHT HERE if you are expecting some kind of marital advice from this post: I got none.😂 Mr. Dafrastar is amazing and shit, but I’m still working on being okay sharing my food with another human being, and tolerating silly habits like EATING PIZZA WITH A FORK AND KNIFE. One thing I can say though- be with someone who embraces your crazy, and you will be happy.

Blogger @Dafrastar sharing 5 tips to enjoy your wedding day to the max (wearing her own custom wedding dress)

That said, what I CAN talk about with a fair amount of conviction is my actual wedding day and what I would have done differently, so anyone may learn from my mistakes. It was a phenomenal day (I’m obviously biased) that went by VERY VERY fast. I did take some breaks to soak it all in, but still- I felt scammed at the end of the night. I wanted to dance some more, hug my friends and family some more, wear my dress (es) some more; when the music ended, I literally saw a year of planning abruptly end with the last notes of  “Uptown Funk” from Bruno Mars. Wah! (We did keep the party going at a local bar until 4:00 AM though, so I did get more moves in. Also, I got to re-wear my dresses for the shoot featured here, so I did see that wish come true too 😂.)

Blogger @Dafrastar sharing 5 tips to enjoy your wedding day to the max (wearing her own custom wedding dress)I hope you like this post as much as I enjoyed putting it together. Let me know if you have any questions at all in the comments! (about my dresses: both were custom made for me, and I’m more than happy to talk about my dress journey in a subsequent post. It was the best option for me personally.)

Okay so here’s what I learned:

Blogger @Dafrastar sharing 5 tips to enjoy your wedding day to the max (wearing her own custom wedding dress)1- Know what you want early on; STICK WITH IT THROUGH YOUR WEDDING DAY.

We were very clear from our engagement that our wedding day was for us to come together as a family, BUT in our own terms. We both had to be comfortable on that day, and we both had to feel loved and happy. It meant that we (an Indian Atheist and a Burkinabe Catholic) needed to compromise on the ceremony itself and hold our ground when our respective families inevitably questioned our choices, which is easier said than done (my mother is still salty I didn’t get married in a church.)

On a lighter note, it also meant we got to determine what we most wanted: my husband wanted a great selection of Indian food, and I wanted a killer DJ. We both also knew we wanted a day full of levity, and we built everything around those things… Which leads us to the next point.

Blogger @Dafrastar sharing 5 tips to enjoy your wedding day to the max (wearing her own custom wedding dress)

2- Do not cut corners on food, booze or music (replace those three items with whatever you care about)

ZERO IN on what you know will make your day awesome and KNOCK IT OUT OF THE PARK. We knew we were bringing two cultures together, so we were terrified of being in a room where one half hated the food and the other half hated the music. I tasked my cousins and bridesmaids to get me the hottest tunes from our respective countries and I actually sat down with the DJ to create a playlist that flowed well between both genres, with top 40 US music serving as a buffer/transition. We also went to multiple food tastings at the venue, pleaded our favorite Indian restaurant to cater for us, and took a lot of care choosing the flavor of our cake. None of this was done in a snobbish way; we wanted food to bring people together because it was good and varied, and based on the feedback we got afterward… we did alright 😊 We also helped the bonding by making sure the bar was open all night, ha!!!!  I would say that 50% of our budget went to the items above, and I don’t regret it one bit.

Blogger @Dafrastar wearing her custom wedding dress

3- It’s YOUR WEDDING; DO expect it to be amazing, but DON’T let small missteps stress you out.

Missteps happen at all weddings. Forgotten rings, speeches, place cards (I’m looking at you, A.), wilted flowers, sassy relatives, whatever. Those things are minuscule in the larger scheme of things, but they can seem huge to a tired and stressed bride. My advice: let that shit go and focus on marrying that hunk. Forreal.

My wedding was no exception; a once esteemed family friend turned into a huge control freak and had a meltdown because she was not consulted for everything… including decorations. SHE ACTUALLY ENDED UP SKIPPING THE WEDDING, in spite of flying to CA from Chicago for it. She literally locked herself up in her hotel room and refused to come out.

Guess what I did when informed? Nothing. I raised my eyebrows, shook my head and asked my mom for a snack. Granted, maybe I was just too tired to care (that was an hour before walking down the aisle), but even in hindsight, that was the right thing to do.

Blogger @Dafrastar sharing 5 tips to enjoy your wedding day to the max (wearing her own custom wedding dress) with the #glossbomb from #FentyBeauty

4- Run away from your family if needed; your bridesmaids will help.

My family showed up ten days before the festivities, and while it was a huge relief, it was also a huge ordeal to help them move around, shop, get ethnic food, etc. While I wanted nothing to do but cuddle with my mom, I started feeling overwhelmed when, a couple days before the big day,  I had to leave my wedding hair appointment to rescue them for the tenth time- in that case, because they had gone shopping at Costco without a membership. They called me panicking from the cashier, with $300 worth of groceries and a less than happy store manager.

My bridesmaid R. (who was with me at the salon) took one good look at me and decided that I needed sleep. She pretty much kidnapped me and drove me to my other bridesmaid I.’s house, who had ordered me a massage via Soothe. They had some pajamas at the ready, some food on the way and some cozy blankets. I fell asleep immediately after eating and didn’t wake up until the next day. Meanwhile, my 3rd bridesmaid K. moved in with my parents to help them, and my 4th bridesmaid A. stayed with me at I.’s house while R. ran all the errands. They told my parents I was okay but needed a break. It was the best thing ever, and I relaxed SO MUCH. Friends, man. You need them.

Blogger @Dafrastar sharing 5 tips to enjoy your wedding day to the max (wearing her own custom wedding dress)

5- Don’t leave things until the last minute.

Whatever you can control, attempt to do it ahead of time. Nails, extensions, whatever- please don’t schedule anything right before your wedding day; it’s a risky proposition. Better to have week old nails than jacked up nails at the last minute. Give yourself the gift of peace of mind!

I thought I was prepared, guys. I had two hair and makeup trials six months before the wedding. I bought my wedding extensions months in advance and had them professionally made into a unit. Even with all that, something possessed me to wait until a few days before my wedding to get my unit installed. Lo and behold: it was a disaster. The day before the wedding, I realized that my own hair wouldn’t stay straight for the style I had chosen, my extensions wouldn’t stay curled, and everything was overall just limp and flat. My bridesmaids (thank God for those girls) had to painstakingly take my extensions down that very night, and put in some new ones I had THANKFULLY thought to bring to the venue. Can you imagine if I hadn’t? The venue was 50 miles away from my house.

Blogger @Dafrastar sharing 5 tips to enjoy your wedding day to the max (wearing her own custom wedding dress)

6- BONUS: Mold traditions around you and what you’re comfortable with.

That one is self-explanatory: avoid shit you don’t want to do. Simple.

  • Mr. Dafrastar hates being the center of attention, so we had our parents join us for the first dance (we almost skipped it altogether).
  • I wasn’t about to have anyone under my dress in front of my mother, so no garter toss.
  • Where I almost succumbed to peer pressure was the wedding shoes. I got gorgeous heels because I thought I should, had them photographed, etc… And then I walked down the aisle in awesome Amazon flats bedazzled by my bridesmaid A. Nobody could see my feet anyway and I was much happier! See them below.
Blogger @Dafrastar sharing 5 tips to enjoy your wedding day to the max (wearing her own custom wedding dress)and flats bedazzled by her bidesmaid
Photo by Sarah Dawson Photography

Phew- that’s it for this long ass post! Share any thoughts you may have below, and thanks as always for stopping by!

Please see actual pictures of the wedding below, taken by the awesome Sarah Dawson. The photos from the shoot above were brought to life by the amazing Rachel Radcliffe.

Blogger @Dafrastar sharing 5 tips to enjoy your wedding day to the max (wearing her own custom wedding dress)- photo by Sarah Dawson Photography

Blogger @Dafrastar sharing 5 tips to enjoy your wedding day to the max (wearing her own custom wedding dress)- photo by Sarah Dawson PhotographyBlogger @Dafrastar sharing 5 tips to enjoy your wedding day to the max (wearing her own custom wedding dress)- photo by Sarah Dawson PhotographyBlogger @Dafrastar sharing 5 tips to enjoy your wedding day to the max (wearing her own custom wedding dress)- photo by Sarah Dawson PhotographyBlogger @Dafrastar sharing 5 tips to enjoy your wedding day to the max (wearing her own custom wedding dress)- photo by Sarah Dawson PhotographyBlogger @Dafrastar sharing 5 tips to enjoy your wedding day to the max (wearing her own custom wedding dress)- photo by Sarah Dawson PhotographyBlogger @Dafrastar sharing 5 tips to enjoy your wedding day to the max (wearing her own custom wedding dress)- detail photo by Sarah Dawson Photography

 

With love,

D

 

 

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