Self-Care: The Art of Fleeing BS and Maintaining A Positive Outlook on Life

Hellurrrr #fashionablehumans!!!!

Hope this week is lit AF, and that your weekend was full of fun, naps and beautiful moments (veeeery open to interpretation 😏.)

I am in a great mood today, which makes me wonder why this is not a more common occurrence; I am often peppy and positive, but I want that to be an everyday thing, you know? Self-care has been in my mind a lot lately, from taking better care of my skin (working on my version of the 10-step Korean regimen), eating low-carb (23 lbs down, bish) and reading a lot more about positivity, manifestation and purpose.

Indeed, as I get older, I have less and less tolerance for BS and its little cousin Drama. These 2 were not regulars in my life anyway; now though, every time I see them, I just want to call the cops to have them escorted to a different zip code. (I won’t, because the way police brutality is setup…)

Anywhoooo, I would love to share little steps I have been taking every day to be more positive, energized and overall happy with life. I am still a work in progress (and shall be until the day I die), so some of these are still a struggle. Still, they have made a difference for me and I hope they do for you too.

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Who are you, really? No, I am not asking about your degrees, your job, or even your religion. Who are YOU? What do you love, what do you dislike? What makes your heart soar, and what makes you quake with fear? What do you want out of your life? Like, REALLY want?

Answering these questions (and more) will allow you to be honest with yourself about what you aspire to, and who you aspire to be. I personally feel like questioning myself often creates a virtuous circle: I get in touch with my own feelings, follow what I really want and therefore feel happy, fulfilled and positive because I am going after my goals and creating my reality. Don’t leave for others.

Questioning myself often creates a virtuous  circle: I learn who I really am, follow what I really want and feel happy and positive because I am creating my reality.Don’t leave for others.

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This one is so important, guys. You cannot live a positive life if you refuse to be kind to yourself.

Think about it: we are so kind to others! We stay up late consoling our friends, are there for them when they run into hardships and love them unconditionally. Why can’t we do that for ourselves?

  • We are NOT defined by our mistakes, but instead by our ability to learn from them.
  • We are NOT less worthy than the next girl because she has a smaller dress size, or because we have thicker thighs.
  • We are NOT failures because we have not completed college or just folded after a business venture.

I avoid negative self-talk as much as I can. Writing a great thing about myself in my Panda Planner every morning before I start work, and really taking a minute to internalize it is also a helpful habit. I also really, really try not to fall into the social media comparison trap. I AM ENOUGH.

Always remember: you are smart as shit, strong, fun and destined to do amazing things. Please realize how great you are, and how much you bring to the people around you. Treat yourself like you would your best friend: do not allow your mind or mouth to speak evil of you. (Pro tip: reading manifestation related content further explains how important it is to speak highly of yourself.)

Treat yourself like you would your best friend: do not allow your mind or mouth to speak evil of you.

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You know exactly who I am talking about. We all have those friends/acquaintances/family members who are HEAVY to be around. They stay whining (while never trying to fix their issues), angry at someone or supercritical of you and your choices. You never feel positive after spending time with them, but down and exhausted instead. Seeing an incoming call from them makes you sigh heavily… or sends you into fits of panic.

One word: Run. (Fast. And far away.)

While it is okay to listen to a buddy’s venting session (and to help them out when you can), it is NOT okay to let their issues get you down, especially when they refuse to help themselves. After a while, you have to realize that your own positivity and sanity come first. Just have them miss you with the bullshit. Politely change the topic when they mention that fuckboy for the 1,355,676 th time, because they are clearly refusing to learn from their mistakes.

Even worse: beware of people who embrace mediocrity and shit all over your dreams.

Let’s be clear: real friends will STAN when you get a better job, get engaged, get a promotion, lose weight, or finally launch that business (more on being a good friend here). They will also keep it real with you and give you honest but constructive feedback, which is always needed. What you do NOT need is the naysayers, who keep yapping things like  “You can’t do it”, or who suddenly go silent when you share great news. No ma’am.

Protect your energy from those leeches and keep being amazing and positive.

We all have those friends/acquaintances/family members who are HEAVY to be around (…) One word: Run. (Fast. And far away.)

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What I am wearing: Dress, here; boots, here; purse, Céline Phantom. Baseball hat, HELMH (wearing Sultan Harare Dashiki cap)

Step out of your comfort zone and try new things.

Got a whole post on this here. Keep pushing your boundaries and find joy in new adventures.

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One thing that keeps me positive is taking great care of myself. I often joke that the worse I feel, the better I look. I love wearing cool clothes just because, wearing a fresh lash to the office because I want to, changing my hairstyle because I can, and wearing my best shoes on a random Tuesday. Because why the fuck not?

Do not put off rocking a fun dress or wearing your sexy undies for a “special occasion”. Guess what- every day is one! Your closet exists for you; use it! Wear those fun stockings, that perfume that makes you feel like a million bucks, those jeans that make your 🍑 look amazing. You deserve to make yourself happy. All the damn time.

Do not put off rocking a fun dress or wearing your sexy undies for a “special occasion”. Guess what- every day is one! (…) You deserve to make yourself happy, all the damn time.

I hope this helps even one of you to zero in on their happiness, and preserve their positive attitude every day. Life is short; let’s enjoy it with no BS.

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On to the ‘fit:

This dress I am HERE for it. Just such a gem! I am in absolute love with it, and in spite of having had it for less than a month, I already wore it 3 times. It is comfy, soft, thick, relaxed, and just everything I ever wanted in a hoodie dress. I had to (considerably) size up (this is a 3X, I am a M-L in most cases), so just keep that in mind. For your reference, I am 36″-29″-45″, and I am 5″11. It is such a fun casual piece, and I think I may wear it again tomorrow. 🤷🏿‍♀️

This baseball hat was kindly sent to me by Harlem over at HELMH. His company provides Ankara headwraps and baseball caps, which got me immediately excited- y’all know I live for a good Ankara print. The cap I am rocking here is the Sultan Harare Dashiki (sold out at the moment), but this one is bae- I kinda want to get it for myself. I find my hat to be very well made, sturdy and with vibrant colors. I’d wear it with regular clothes for that extra dash of culture, heh!

The boots: featured on the blog before, here. Love them; they look good, fit well and are reasonably comfortable.

The purse: featured here. I still feel the same way about it.

That’s it for today guys!!! Thanks so much for your renewed support, and I will see you later this week!

Until next time,

With Love,

D

3 Tips to Get Back on Track after Failure

Wassup wassup #fashionablehumans !

Just came home from sunny Ouagadougou, where I was to celebrate my cousin’s wedding!!!! I was super excited to be back home, see my parents, family and friends, and also EAT EVERYTHING! Real talk, by the week before I left, I had already sent my mom a list of allllll the things I needed to eat during my stay. I came correct!

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While I am super fortunate to travel often (this trip brought my count to 4 countries and 4 continents in the past 6 months), being on the go all the time takes its toll, and unfortunately— Dafrastar often gets the short end of the stick (I have not posted in a fucking month). I often find myself falling asleep at my computer (like right now 😂) while blogging. I also mostly work at night, so sometimes I don’t even make it to my computer AT ALL. While I believe that resolutions are obsolete (you may read more on that here), I do have serious goals for the blog in 2018. For example, I aim to post quality content twice a week (as well as stick to a Tuesday & Friday uploading schedule). I believe and trust I will eventually succeed at this, but MAN has it been challenging. I can confidently say I have failed at it so far.

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Needless to say, some days I just feel an overwhelming annoyance with myself. How dare I need more than 4 hours of sleep a day? How come I do not have a perfectly organized editorial calendar, with content planned for the next zillion weeks? How come I can’t churn out twelve viral posts per minute, while also slaying my career, keeping full edges and rocking clear skin? WHY? Ugh.

The summary of this tirade is: sometimes I get fucking tired and discouraged of failing at my goals. Life is pretty much the art of juggling shit,  and one invariably has to fall behind somewhere. For me, not hitting my posting schedule for the blog makes me anxious. Anxiety, in turn, makes me catatonic and prone to avoidance; I just want to give everything up and run away. I guess that’s why the expression “falling off the wagon” exists… We all have lives, and side hustles/hobbies don’t always get much love. They eventually end up choo-chooing their way away from our overwhelmed asses.

(…) side hustles/hobbies don’t always get much love. They eventually end up choo-chooing away from our overwhelmed asses.

Therefore, some days I do have to dig deeeep to remain motivated/ get back on track after failing. The tips below help me do it and remain somewhat sane; they are how this blog post is live today, and how many more will see the light of day. These tips apply to everything in life, as far as I am concerned: exercise routines, nutrition, dance classes, skin care… pretty much anything in your life requiring continuous commitment and effort. Let’s jump into it!

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1- The path to success is not straight. The ones who make it are the ones who understand that failure is part of the game.

 

This is something we should all remember more often.

 

You likely saw this picture around the internet somewhere. Success and failure go hand in hand; that’s just the truth. Even the greatest athletes have off days, weeks or even years. Does that mean they should stop? Nope, and neither should you. Consistency is hard and we are all bound to fall short sometimes. That said, it is also our duty to refuse to get used to failure. We have to accept it and learn from it, but more than everything, we have to let it fuel our comeback. I will be the first one to admit that failure sucks. Up until this day, not succeeding at something leaves a horrible taste in my mouth. That said, in 2017, I learned to hold myself to high standards and not let failure define me. It was such a liberating moment! I pretty much gave myself the permission to fail as long as I kept getting up and trying harder. Guess what: the areas of my life I applied this rule to saw more success in 2017 than any other year before.

LESSON: Do not focus that much on the “Falling” part of the story; it is the “Getting Up” part that matters.

Consistency is hard and we are all bound to fall short sometimes. That said, it is also our duty to refuse to get used to failure. (…) Do not focus that much on the “Falling” part of the story; it is the “Getting Up” part that matters.

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2- Remember: Progress is much better than perfection

This is squarely targeted to people who also suffer from my ailment, the accursed disease of perfection. In our heads, we are failing everyone including the Queen of England if we do not execute things exactly at the time we planned them, with grace, poise and excellence. However, life (and especially work) taught me that the sentence above is the devil, and the devil is a lie. Think about it: visualize yourself making a quilt, or a sweater, or some other shit that requires a large time investment. Making a quilty-square (you know exactly what I’m trying to say) per day may be your initial goal, but you may end up making 4 squares a week (because life), or a couple of your squares could be kind of crooked. Do you stop quilting because your output isn’t perfect? NO, THAT WOULD BE SILLY. You would keep sewing that shit until it was done and chilling on your guest room bed. That analogy applies to life: a crooked quilty square does not mean you stop; it means you learn where to put your needle to make better squares and keep it moving.

LESSON: Slower than planned does not mean stagnant. Hang in there and try to speed up; if you can’t,  still hang in there. Think of any hard project as a master quilting project.

Slower than planned does not mean stagnant. Hang in there and try to speed up; if you can’t, still hang in there. Think of any hard project as a master quilting project. Do you stop quilting because your output isn’t perfect? NO, THAT WOULD BE SILLY.

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3- You likely learned a thing or two on your break.

Let’s assume you took an unplanned break from working towards your dream, or maybe stayed on the ground a little longer than usual (due to a particularly vicious setback). Guess what? Chances are, you will get back on the horse with a refreshed mind, renewed purpose, or even better ideas/more drive than before. Anyone who ever had to work on a creative project can attest to the fact that walking away for a while does wonders for the brain. It helps you reset, think about things differently, and maybe even finally grasp something that kept eluding you before. While this is not reason enough to take a hiatus, it is definitely a non-negligible benefit.

LESSON: If you fall hard, realize that the unplanned break will still bring you benefits. Use them to the max; make that setback count!

Anyone who ever had to work on a creative project can attest to the fact that walking away for a while does wonders for the brain. If you fall hard, realize that the unplanned break will still bring you benefits. Use them to the max; make that setback count!

Hang in there, peeps. Just hang in there, and never think that falling off the wagon does not mean you can catch the next train. Bonus: you may even ride in the first class coach.

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On to the outfit we are rocking today! This look was initially shot as a part of my Fall 2017 Trends series, to represent for the fringe and fishnets trends. Never got around to posting it. Welp.

The top: I LOVE it (featured in my sequin skirt lookbook as well). It has the right balance of sass and comfort, and I love that the drama is limited to the sleeves (dunno why, but I dig that shit.) I will likely wear it until it falls apart. That said, I still can’t find a link to it for the life of me, so here are 2 similar options here and here. Sowee!

The skirt: I am also in love with this puppy. It is a simple faux leather A-line mini skirt from Zara, and it can be worn so many ways. Maybe I should feature it in a post?…🤔 I rocked it with a turtleneck, an oversized shirt, a tee, a sheer bodysuit… it can do it all. I even wore it with thick tights and a sweater to work, and upped the casual vibe with some sneakers. I’m telling you, it is a jack of all trades.

The boots: they are the Steve Madden Gorgeous, and they are bae; I spoke about them here, and somehow never got a chance to feature them on the blog until now. They are a size 10 (I wear 10.5) so they are a smidgen tight but manageable. I love them with jeans, they make my legs look a mile long.

The fishnets: pretty ordinary ones, get the job done. I would have bought cuter ones if I had given it more thought.

That’s it for this post folks! Please tell me below; how do you manage to get shit done, or how do you motivate yourself to keep going after you fall? Let’s share tips so we can all crush goals this year!

Until next time,

With Love,

D

Leggy Lady: OTK boots, Fun Blazer and Denim Shorts

Hey there peeps, welcome (back)!

If you’re new here (this is post 2 so there’s a 99.99% chance you are), welcome! I am Dafra; if you are interested in learning more about me beyond this fresh OTK boots/denim shorts combo, please check out the sidebar. I hope you have fun reading my musings!

So Post 1 went okay- no tears were shed, nobody lost a limb and people actually gave me great feedback! Grass Fields even reposted my look on their page -hence causing me narrowly avoid death from excitement – so I all in all would call that a successful start to the new blog. I would also like to thank all of you who left comments, double tapped my images or told me in real life that you liked my post. It means so much- you have no idea.

www.dafrastar.com, Stuart Weitzman, leggylady, velvet boots, over the knee boots, otk boots, velvet boots, shorts and over the knee boots So I am coming at you today with the recreation of an outfit I wore last year to Beyonce’s Bay Area Formation stop and LOVED (the outfit, to be clear- LOVE is not nearly strong enough a word to describe what I had coursing through my veins during those few hours 🐝🐝🐝. We  can re-visit that topic later). For reasons you may already understand upon laying eyes on my getup, I have experienced some difficulties in attempting to re-wear it in non-thottish settings, so blogging gave me the PERFECT excuse to revisit it. (I haven’t given up though, I will wear this outfit some place that is neither a concert, nor a photo shoot. Just watch me.)

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A few things that will become apparent as I post more and more looks on this blog :

  1. I WILL wear denim any and every chance I get, all day, every day
  2. I would have a 100% black wardrobe if I could (with the exception of- well, denim)
  3. Red lipstick is an absolute staple in my life. I have a dozen different ones (hahahaha lies- waaaay more) and I may be dedicating a post to this mild obsession sometime in the near future
  4. I would never ever physically go shopping if I could buy everything online. One can literally trace back my whole life through bread crumbs from my Amazon shopping history and my Etsy /Poshmark/Ebay/Zara/ ASOS/NastyGal receipts. Everything.
  5. Wearing any item of clothing only once is a failure to optimize in my book. I wear shit until it falls apart.

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Given the points above- this look was a no-brainer. All of these pieces came from straight my closet (…which worked out great because that Formation ticket wasn’t cheap, nosebleeds notwithstanding). Bonus points: I could move in my shorts and (poorly) recreate moves from the stage, my legs looked great and I was generally happy with the universe.

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What I wore: OTK Boots: Leggylady from Stuart Weitzman (HERE), shorts from Express (Old, similar HERE), Random bedazzled halter top (Similar HERE) and Lookbook jacket from Amazon (HERE). My lipstick is Coloured Raine Cherry Blossom (HERE)

On to the ‘fit:

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That Jacket is everything and a bag of chips. It is around $50 and it was such a good purchase! I have worn it countless times: to work with jeans/skirts, fitted or flare; on top of a dressy outfit to tone it down; on top of a strapless dress because I was fucking cold; name it, I’ve done it. I will wear it tomorrow as I will be trekking across of NYC for meetings all day;  seriously- this jacket is BAE (and I like to think I hate that word). I will buy it in more colors (navy perhaps?), or honestly I may just get another black one so I may have it as a back up. The lapels are pretty and unique, but I have noticed the right side lays weird so I have to straighten it sometimes. The peplum situation is flattering and makes my body look hourglassy; the strong shoulder is just the right amount of pointy-ness, and I just really love the overall result. It also has lover 450 reviews on Amazon as of today, and a 4 star rating (out of five). Not too shabby.

The shorts: they are SHORT. Nothing peeks from underneath for me but they are not the kind to wear if you have generous curves – they will spill out 😬 … unless you size up. These are just simple, solid denim shorts to me;  ripped in the right places, adequately distressed, and I love the wash. It is also a staple in my closet and I had already worn them ten times or more prior to Formation (they were purchased in 2013.)

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The top I actually wore a semi sheer Zara top to the concert (can’t find it online, will update if I do). The one I have on in the photos is a no-name halter top I got on sale somewhere yearsssss ago for like $10. Nothing major to say about it, but it survived several washes, beading is intact, it is comfortable and roomy and the chiffon-like material is breathable. I have a similar suggestion in the caption above.

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Now on to the OTK boots (settle in, this is a long story).

The ones I wore to Formation were these Colin  Stuart boots, purchased from Victoria’s Secret in 2009 or something (they are now discontinued). OMG these suckers HURT! I rarely wore them but could not find the courage to give them away because they were so hot. I promise you I limped around for 2 days after Formation because I danced my little heart out.

One day earlier this year, I was minding my own business making tea in the office kitchen and came across my (always stylish) coworker C. rocking some serious boot candy.  She gave me the 411 (she was wearing the Stuart Weitzman Highland, and also owned the Lowland); after pulling them up on my phone, I audibly gasped at the price. She did warn me they were an investment, and did mention she had had them for over 5 years and had loved every minute of it- so when broken out THAT WAY the cost was not bad but still- damn! I was excited but still mad at the price.

I therefore started stalking those babies everywhere (eBay, Poshmark, anywhere I could think of) in the attempt to nab them at a discount. While roaming the interwebs to find them, I came across the Steve Madden “Gorgeous” boots– which are a pretty close replica of the Highlands. That said, deep down, I really wanted the Lowlands (I wanted a daily OTK boot), but after watching video comparisons (here and here), I just took the leap and bought the Gorgeous anyway because I knew I would still get some use out of them ; also Zappos had some sale going on and I didn’t want to miss out. (I turned out to be right at least- I have worn them a few times and I like them a lot. Money well spent.)

Picture from A Sparkle Factor; see her post about these boots here

Still, I was still pining for a flat pair of boots, so I randomly went to the SW website again to cry at the screen… ONLY TO FIND ANOTHER OTK BOOT, THE LEGGYLADY (WAIT FOR IT) …  50% OFF  ONLY.IN.MY.SIZE!!! (okay fine it was a half size larger but what are socks for?) I could not even believe it- so after pinching myself I bought them without even thinking, not realizing that the likelihood of someone else needing crotch grazing boots in Sz. 11.5 at the same time was VERY slim. But I digress.

After the fact, I immediately had buyer’s remorse and was like …

  • “It’s not even the same boot- what if the reviews on these suck?” (they didn’t)
  • “Shit, they are velvet. That is so extra for every day wear, plus it’s likely annoying to clean.” (that’s true)
  • “Ugh they are so big and my feet will look like fish.” (Well…)

But when they came in the mail… I was just over the moon. (And also banned from buying anything for 2 months).

While I have not worked up the nerve to wear them to work, I wore them out once, wore them to this photoshoot, and actually spent a 9 hours stretch in them the other day without even wincing once! I had no pain at all- so I wore them again the next day for 9 more hours, and walked half a mile. I had no pain or blisters later, so I would say they are definitely good for everyday wear (if you can rock velvet.)

www.dafrastar.com, Stuart Weitzman, leggylady, velvet boots, over the knee boots, otk boots, velvet boots, shorts and over the knee bootsMy final thoughts are that SW shoes are expensive as shit. I am NOT going to be the one to tell you to buy their boots (I offered you an alternative- that I actually wear) but as much as I love the Gorgeous boots, they do NOT make me feel the way my velvet extra AF Leggylady boots do . The latter are also the ONLY boots I have ever found to be TRULY OTK (over-the-knee) for my 5″11 frame, and that matters to me. I will cherish them until they fall apart because I need to squeeze a 6 yr lifetime out of them (at least!) to justify my investment.

Side note – they do not roll down the leg, especially with jeans tucked in, but they do shimmy down a little with bare skin (you can tighten the laces at the back of the thigh though, so that helps a bit).

Dassit! If you read this far, you are a trooper and I appreciate your time. Drop me a comment and tell me about your favorite shoes!

See ya next time,

D

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With Love,

D